Well yes, sorry to be so clear. With some people you can’t live together and also you can not live together for many reasons. And, if you allow me, accepting that you cannot live with some people is a clear example that we are thinking pretty. With some people you can build bridges while with others it is better to let the water run.
Because? Well, because they hurt us. There are people who provoke us pain. Perhaps intentionally, perhaps without being aware, perhaps without wanting to, but yes, some people hurt us.
We must attend to pain. Pain tells us that something is not working well, it is warning us that what is happening is not good for our body or our mind. Do not ignore it that your body no longer knows how to tell you.
You can’t live with some people because we don’t respect. It is true that we often do not respect ourselves and perhaps it is for this reason that we do not find it strange when another person is not respecting us. you have your rhythmsthe prioritiesthe needs and yours wishes. It’s always better to find someone with whom you can share those priorities, but if you don’t, that’s okay. It is not necessary that we share the same ideas, but we do have the same level of respect.
You can’t live with some people because they abuse our good faith. It seems that we carry a luminous sign in which we are sending a message to parasite profiles so that they come to us to take advantage of our resources. Well no, in social relations the principle of reciprocity thanks to which we give as much as we receive. I have always been more than symbiotic relationships how parasitic
You can’t live with some people because they use us. Yes, to achieve your priorities and objectives. They use us like a pawn in a game of chess, without considering what we may feel or what we may suffer. That is the problem that when the feelings of another person are not taken into account, it is because they have been depersonalized and dehumanized, lowering them to the category of resource, tool or puppet.
With some people you can’t live together because they mistreat us. Yes, sometimes in a subtle way and sometimes in an overt way, often in a sophisticated way and sometimes in a gross way. We do not deserve to be treated badly, no matter how much you have integrated it into your life, no matter how much you are used to being treated badly by your parents. We have not come here to adopt the sparring role. Each one who carries their frustrations, anger and traumas. Love yourself, respect yourself, don’t allow them to treat you badly.
I could go on with many more motives. Some people ignore us, they just share a space or a time with us but deliberately ignore us. Perhaps they appreciate that we are not up to their standards, perhaps they believe that we are not worthy of their attention. It’s okay, again, we don’t have to put up with that ignorance.
There are even people who enjoy our suffering and they provoke it deliberately. Those punisher profiles they are very dangerous. No one deserves to be punished, no one should feel morally superior to go around punishing left and right.
No problem. We cannot live with just anyone. Do not forget the maxim: if it hurts, it doesn’t suit you. Whether family, friend or partner. Those who love you well will not make you cry, they will treat you with respect. Life is too short to not have beautiful relationships. Don’t you think?
You can discover other tips to think pretty from Tomás Navarro ( @tomasnavarropsi on instagram) in his work ‘Your red lines’ . And also, you can read other articles by Tomás Navarro on ABC Bienestar here.