I got married far away, only visited my parents once every few months, but I didn’t dare to complain. But he considers it normal because “getting married, you have to follow your husband’s house”.
Never before has he returned to his wife’s hometown before Tet to present the ceremony to her parents-in-law. I urged him, he said: “The house is far away, it is inconvenient to travel, it is okay to come back during Tet”. For him, my parents are just extras, don’t bother him.
I tried to hold back from those things so that I might ask him to go home to spend New Year’s Eve with my biological parents for a year. But every time he mentioned it, he found a reason to promise. Year following year, he forced me to return to my hometown on the 4th to celebrate Tet. In the countryside, on the 4th, all the old people went to the fields to work in the fields, no one stayed at home like the people in the city.
Nine years of marriage, I never felt like I was too demanding. It is also common sense to ask to go home to celebrate Tet early. But the patriarchal, conservative husband is afraid of his parents’ criticism, so he does not dare to let his wife and children go home first. Every year, like every year, before Tet, my brother and I had a heated argument.
This year, my family has a job, my sister lives in the South to celebrate Tet, and on the 5th, I have to fly in. I discussed with my husband to ask for permission from my parents to return to my wife’s hometown to celebrate Tet from the 2nd. I also took advantage of an early leave to clean up and buy all the furniture for my husband’s house to make my parents-in-law satisfied. But before he might speak, he glared at me and said his wife was unruly.
Resentful in my heart, I also got angry and reacted in front of my husband’s parents: “You say I’m unruly, so do you think you have any rules? For many years, he has never returned to give Tet gifts to his parents-in-law before, and even banned me from having enough sugar. This year, my family has a job, I asked to go home early, but he did not agree. He has a family, I also have blood relatives. Aren’t you the only one who knows how to value intimacy?”
After that, I went back inside the house to clean up. I also told my husband’s parents that I had taken care of the family, so I asked to go home early from the 2nd. My parents-in-law was silent, but my husband was still mad and was regarding to slap his wife.
Due to his disrespectful attitude towards his wife, I always talked to my husband’s parents. “From next year, I would like to ask for permission to celebrate the New Year at home and one year to celebrate the foreign New Year. If my husband feels resentful because of this, can’t accept it, then I can’t continue this marriage anymore. I beg your pardon.”
After my words, my husband froze. I’ve been so patient for the past nine years that you don’t know how resentful I must be. But now the “tears are over”, I really can’t take it any longer. I have decided to live for myself even if I get a divorce.
According to Vietnamnet
