And among those customs, there is another very interesting saying, which can be considered as a default rule, which is:Son-in-law do not plow the father-in-law’s field, and the daughter does not dig the grave of her mother’s house”.
This question makes it very difficult to understand why son-in-law is not allowed to plow his father-in-law’s field. What regarding a daughter who digs into her mother’s house, is there anything taboo?
Son-in-law does not plow his father-in-law’s field
In the old days, most people made their living by farming, land and gardens were their main source of livelihood. Son-in-law is considered a Alex Reed in the house, so the society at that time also did not accept the son-in-law working in the fields of his parents-in-law. Even if they are poor, the sons-in-law will keep their dignity and do not cultivate the fields of their parents-in-law.
For a man, once he gets married, he has to take care of his wife and take care of his family. It is shameful to rely on the resources of your wife’s parents to pursue life, take shortcuts and develop yourself. Therefore, the ancients thought that: “The son-in-law does not plow his father-in-law’s field” is such a reason. That is, the son-in-law should avoid this so as not to be ridiculed by others, thereby minimizing conflicts between the two families.
Daughters do not dig their mother’s grave
In the past, women had to obey the “three obediences and four virtues”. When they got married, they belonged to the husband’s family and were no longer daughters in the family. Therefore, if a daughter gets married and goes to her mother’s house to clean the tomb, it will affect the feng shui fortune of her parents’ family. At the same time, the luck that should have belonged to the mother’s family will be transferred to the husband’s family.
The ancients believed that the son is the root of the family, while the daughter who gets married and becomes the bride of another family can only worship her husband and the ancestors of her husband’s family, not the ancestors of her parents’ house.
