To tell everyone the truth, any girl who goes to be a bride and lives with her mother-in-law always tells her heart that in the future if she has a daughter-in-law, she will love her like a daughter. But thinking that, it is difficult to do. I myself used to go ashore in the field because my mother-in-law judged me. At that time, I was very angry with my mother-in-law, thinking that tomorrow I would not be in that position. Unexpectedly, in the eyes of my daughter-in-law, I am also a harsh person.
I have two children, a boy and a girl. Both of them are married and have settled lives. My husband died when the children were young, I stayed there to raise the children and did not walk anymore. Women, everyone thinks looking at their children to live. After her husband died, she stayed there to worship her husband, remarried only because she was afraid that the children would suffer.
Because I have a son, I have high expectations for my daughter-in-law. In the past, my children also brought back some girls. She is beautiful, she is educated or otherwise comes from a well-to-do family. In general, among the lovers that my son brought home, I was satisfied. But to the last one, I didn’t like it one bit.
She was born in a difficult family, there are 5 sisters in the family, she is the eldest child. At that time, I did not want my children to marry this girl. Because if we get married, my children will shoulder a double burden. Just have to take care of the outside, and have to take care of the outside. But this time, my child is fierce. The boy secretly went to register his marriage, until I found out, it mightn’t be saved anymore.
Thinking that my child would only get married once in his life, that day, I also gritted my teeth to organize a wedding for him. Even so, in my heart, I don’t agree with this daughter-in-law at all. At first, because the two of them did not have money, they came home to live with me. At that time, I was also comfortable because I thought that with more people, the family would have more laughter. However, staying together for a long time, my daughter-in-law and I began to have conflicts.
First of all, even though she is a bride, she always looks forward to going back to her grandmother’s house. That year, they got married in the 11th lunar month. Near Tet, I told my children:
“If you get married close to Tet like this, you don’t have to go back to your mother’s house. I think in the first year, you should just eat Tet at Grandma’s house. If you wait until the 6th to relax, you can go back home.”
I think it’s fair to say that. But the daughter-in-law refused. New Year that year, only on the 3rd, the couple pulled together to their grandmother. Let me take care of the offerings to Mr. Tao alone. Has anyone become a mother-in-law and still have to take care of those issues?
The first time I was pregnant, my daughter-in-law mightn’t keep it. So when she got pregnant for the second time, she was overly conservative. The house is not cleaned, told to wash the dishes, said that they cannot squat. Even following washing and putting the dishes up, the sound was too high, so I didn’t have to reach for it. I’m the mother-in-law, of course, I don’t like the way my daughter-in-law behaves. But the sad thing is that my son is very protective of his wife. When listening to my mother’s advice, my son always said:
“Don’t judge your wife and children too much. If that’s the case, then I’ll go out and rent a house to be comfortable. We mightn’t keep it last time, now she wants to abstain a little bit, but mom doesn’t agree?”
Honestly, I was pregnant once, not only once, but also gave birth to two children. But on that day, everything I did, would I sit and eat like a daughter-in-law? When I gave birth to my son, I had labor pains, but I still had to carry 2 buckets of clean water to stay safe. At that time my husband was away, my mother-in-law was difficult, I still had to do everything, but no one did it for me? Now young people are so happy, so they don’t touch anything.
Until the daughter-in-law gave birth to a child, she kept saying that she had to be raised according to science. 3 months, he cried all night, I cooked porridge to feed him, but he stopped. That proves it’s hungry, eats well, so it can sleep. However, my daughter-in-law thinks that I am harming her. Finally, the couple decided to move out.
Since my son went out, I feel lonely. The house is spacious, but there is an old woman with 2 dogs, sometimes I can’t even listen to people talking. Sometimes I’m still afraid, later when I go, no one knows. Because I’m alone. Children and grandchildren only come home every weekend, do you see them mentioning where to pick up their mother?
Yesterday, I went to the doctor and got some underlying diseases. When I got home, I just called my children to tell them that they were working close to home. As long as my children and grandchildren stay close, I will sell the land on the road and give them all the money to do business. That land can be sold for more than a billion. However, my son always denied it, saying it was for later.
I’m so sad, people. People are old, who is not difficult. Is that so that my daughter-in-law also accepts me? Everyone try to help me with a plan, what should I do so that my children will come back to live with me?
