2023-06-20 01:30:15
Maria Dobronozhenko
43 minutes ago
Rethinking life views, self-hatred because of missed opportunities, an aging reflection in the mirror, and the forces are no longer the same – all these feelings are harbingers of a midlife crisis that occurs in every person aged 30 to 45 years. How to overcome this period?
When this moment comes, people either become depressed or abruptly decide to change everything.
The first crisis occurs most often at the age of 30, and it is, if I may say so, intermediate. Men at this moment begin to worry regarding what heights they have already reached, whether they have built a family, whether they are happy, what are the prospects, etc. If there is a gap in any of these points, this becomes the main experience of a man. And here, either a man begins to work in the direction where there are flaws, so that everyone
correct, or slides into apathy, depression, etc. This period is dangerous because if the choice falls on the second option, different dependencies begin to develop.
At the age of 37-42, the crisis becomes the most massive: physically, men become weaker, their appearance is also not the same as before (hair falls out, gray hair appears, etc.). Some even begin to have problems with potency – and this is a real disaster. During this period, men begin to try to assert themselves, first of all, in front of themselves, so they get mistresses, destroy families and do strange things in an attempt to keep their youth in every possible way.
What is at the heart of the crisis?
The fact is that many believe that the older we get, the less prospects and opportunities we have. If in youth it seems to us that our whole life is ahead, then the older we get, the more acutely we feel how we are approaching the end of our life, and so much has not been done yet! And, what is the worst, some things a person will never be able to do.
midlife crisis symptoms
In addition to increased anxiety, irritability, constant mood swings and loss of energy, there is always:
Thoughts regarding the meaning of life and regarding one’s place in the world; An irresistible desire to change everything; Fear of death.
In the modern world, social networks also add fuel to the fire and all these stories regarding successful success and millions in accounts at the age of 16. And when you are 30 or 40, and your salary is spent only on mandatory payments, you start to wonder, willy-nilly, that something is wrong here. And the fact that forces are leaving you every day and you are no longer as breakthrough as before, only exacerbate the situation.
Should we fight this crisis?
It all depends on how you feel regarding this crisis. If you understand that the crisis only gives you an impetus for growth, then there is no point in fighting the crisis. If you understand that life has become harder for you, then try to understand the causes of your anxiety, honestly and soberly assess the situation and try to find solutions. If you can’t cope on your own, seek help from professionals – and remember, it’s not a shame!
Most importantly, remember that a midlife crisis is not the end of life, but only a new stage in your development.
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