2024-04-22 08:35:52
Bfrom Ordelaise, mother of two children and author of sixteen books on parenting and child development, psychologist Héloïse Junier publishes a comic book aimed at parents. “Following the controversies over education which have ignited discussions among professionals and families alike recently, I wanted to bring the perspective of science to explain to parents what is going on in the heads of their children,” she says. “Children’s emotions, seven days to better understand them”, published by Éditions Les Arènes, offers a kind of coaching to better manage anger, crying, sadness… A comic book intended for children as well, from 7/8 years, only to parents, who can then explain to the little ones.
In seven chapters, the characters of a family experience daily scenes in which everyone can recognize themselves; the character of the psychologist intervenes or invites scientists who collaborated on the work, such as Professor Jean Decety, professor at the University of Chicago, or Professor Rebecca Shankland, professor of psychology at the University of Lyon and responsible for the Observatory of well-being at school and the Parenting Observatory.
Anger, “like vomit”
“Children’s emotions were the theme of my thesis,” explains the psychologist from Bordeaux. I had even worked on those of the infant. The scientific elements of the book allow adults, including grandparents who often have models far removed from those of their children, to react in a more appropriate way for the good of everyone. » The reader will understand that the child’s brain is not very mature, that it does not allow him to manage his emotions. For example, his anger may be difficult to contain. “One day in consultation, as a child he told me that he felt his anger like vomit rising up and I find that very graphic. Tantrums at 2-3 years old can be very explosive. »
Framework and explanations without punishment
So should we let the little ones have a tantrum by just looking at them tenderly? ” No way ! But if we punish him in his room or in the corner, we exclude him from the group, this risks adding sadness, a feeling of injustice and lack of confidence in adults. I think we need to allow a little time to let the pressure cooker of overflowing emotions subside (a few minutes). Then we can explain and show him that his behavior is not appropriate, discuss how he might have done differently, what he might have said instead of shouting… in short, teach him more appropriate behavior. To guide and learn is the role of the adult. Obviously, this is in an ideal world. »
For her, “we can set a framework, even strict, without punishing”. This is why she (and others) opposes the trend denouncing “a lack of educational limits”.
Mademoiselle Caroline’s drawings help to decipher situations and adopt concrete ideas for living better together (and understanding each other).
“Children’s emotions, seven days to better understand them”, Éditions Les Arènes, 124 pages, 20 euros.
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