2023-05-06 11:30:48
Another learning resource we have is the book Loving Who You Are, by the author Byron Katie. In her pages, she proposes to ask four powerful questions to introduce us to the power of acceptance.
“What you resist, persists”said Carl Jung. Resisting what is, generates suffering, frustration, anger, bad mood and pain. While accepting people, changes and circumstances, generates tranquility, calm, relief and well-being. Possibilities are opened to have better interpersonal relationships and achieve better mental, emotional, physical and spiritual health.
Who has not felt rejected, questioned, criticized and judged for not being or acting as others expect?
Who has not felt frustrated because reality collides with expectations?
And perhaps that is one of the causes of resistance to acceptance: Your own expectations or those of others.
Have you ever wondered what life would be like if it flowed between the waves of changes, people and circumstances?
Various resources, various options for learning acceptance
Why me? Because right now? Why not? It was the title of a book I read a long time ago, by the author Eusebio Gómez Navarro and when writing this article I immediately remembered it. Trying to answer the first two questions implies entering an unknown dimension and a spiral of emotions contrary to peace, serenity and calm.
I remember that when I had an accident in 2018, I had them done and while I was submerged in that spiral of pain, confusion and anger, my frustration was increasing and it did not allow me to find the hidden wisdom in why not?
Why not? It came to be a low blow to the ego. The one who thinks he knows everything plus one, who wants to control the environment, circumstances and people. Who wants to show how much he knows, even if he knows nothing. That he creates expectations to impress and does not notice that his life already is, as it is and how it should be.
Acceptance is the magical act of action, of the search for solutions that drives and inspires to continue moving forward, flowing with what there is, with what we have and with what we are. It is the act of letting go of control and letting go of the desire to be right.
When you do not accept life and its nuances as they are, you enter into a fight, internal and external conflicts, disagreement reigns, complaints, judgments and criticisms increase.
Children are the first to experience the weight of non-acceptance when compared to how many cousins there are on the face of the earth, or with other siblings or even with the neighbor’s children. This non-acceptance of reality in parent-child relationships generates the greatest conflicts between these important links.
Another learning resource we have is the book Loving Who You Are, by the author Byron Katie. In her pages, she proposes to ask four powerful questions to introduce us to the power of acceptance.
Let’s take as an example that a mother wants her daughter (or) to be like her older brother, but she doesn’t tell him, she takes care of it, “so as not to hurt him (a). But, would you believe that this lack of acceptance will not surface? Indeed, it comes out subtly, through phrases like: Your sister at your age… I see the neighbor that her children bring her things… it’s that the neighbor is older…
Byron Katie, explores the subconscious and asks:
Is that true?
Are you absolutely certain that this is true?
When you think that is true, how do you behave, what do you say, what do you feel, what do you do?
Who would you be without that story?
When you get to that fourth question, you enter the energy of why not? An exploratory process begins that leads to serenity, frees you from judgment, marks an following, a new path to explore. You realize that the stories are in the memories, in the thoughts, but they are not in the here and now.
Fulfillment and happiness are not without difficulties
It is necessary to overturn the paradigm that fulfillment and happiness is the absence of pain and difficult circumstances. Life is life and it is as it is. It has happy moments and not so happy moments, and the difference lies in the resistance to living in the present moment. When we regain that connection with our inner wisdom, we trust what is, and the experience changes: Acceptance turns into compassion for ourselves and others:
· The miracle of Non-Judgment occurs and we stop attacking, blaming and punishing ourselves for what we consider “failures”, “weaknesses”, “vulnerability” and “insufficiencies”.
· We connect with our divine essence and let ourselves be as we are, with all lights and shadows, without questioning our true identity.
· We live a complete healing experience of well-being and conscious fulfillment, here and now!
· Begins to improve emotional states, muscle pain and mental health.
· Raise awareness that what happened is over and give us a new chance at life. Saying yes to letting go of all those harmful thoughts and feelings that you have been stuck with.
Yamilet Pinto
Psychologist
@yamiletpinto
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