2023-05-21 13:45:42
30 minutes ago
Resentments accumulated like a snowball. At some point, the situation in the family got out of control.
With his current wife, Natalia Podolskaya, Vladimir Presnyakov met in 2005 on the set of the First Channel program “Big Races”. Celebrities immediately felt the attraction. A passionate romance began between Natalia and Vladimir, but something interfered with the relationship – the artist was married.
At that moment, Vladimir Presnyakov had a difficult relationship with his chosen one, fashion designer Elena Lenskaya. Claims between spouses accumulated like a snowball. Today, Lenskaya blames herself for the fact that her union with the musician broke up. According to Elena, she endured and was silent when she had claims against Vladimir. Meanwhile, it was unnecessary to accumulate resentment.
“We just needed to talk. And one day the cup just overflowed, ”notes Lenskaya.
The well-known psychologist and Gestalt therapist Lyubov Rosenberg spoke about the reasons for the collapse of the marriage of Vladimir Presnyakov and Elena Lenskaya. According to the expert, any claims are unjustified expectations. Spouses have the right to demand from each other the satisfaction of needs and the observance of certain rules, however, their wishes must be submitted in the form of a request, not a claim. It is also necessary to learn about the needs of a partner and come to a compromise together.
If a conflict arises, Rosenberg believes, it must end with a “debriefing” and the development of new rules. This must be done in a calm state.
“Often a person says that he does not want to express dissatisfaction on “minor problems”, because it is better to be patient, ensuring peace in the family for a while. And then small discontent accumulates in a big explosion, which, naturally, arises because of a trifle, ”the expert reasoned.
Russians, Rosenberg notes, find it difficult to talk about their feelings and states. This is not accepted in our culture. We must learn to solve problems here and now, and not postpone discussions, says the psychologist.
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