TEST: ARE YOU (REALLY) PHALLO-DECONSTRUCTED?

If your boyfriend’s Valentine’s Day wishlist also contains a Lego Porsche kit, it might be time to share this test with him on the new manthe truth.

Manliness ? So 2019! In the meantime, the Covid, Sandrine Rousseau and the #FreeBritney movement have been there and made you a new man. Moreover, lately, you have decided to redo your entire The Handmad’s Tale and throw away your Avengers. Testosterone boobies, very little for you. In addition, your best friend Juliette told you: ” A sensitive guy, in the process of deconstructing his male privileges, there’s nothing sexier! “. It’s decided, for Valentine’s Day, it’s fifty-fifty your restaurant

1) PODCASTS, YOU EAT THEM
You have discovered podcasts Mansplaining by Thomas Messias on Slate and have become a loyal listener. You recognize yourself in him and in his way of thinking regarding masculinity, and the relationship between the sexes intrigues you. Maybe you’ll even treat yourself to his book…

2) FASHION, YOU LIKE IT COMMITTED
You love hoodies, preferably unicoloured. What makes it original is this small minimalist logo in the shape of a planet. You bought it at a streetwear pop-up store of eco-responsible brands and exclusively unisex second-hand clothing. ” The DJ set was great, there was even craft beer and stylish eco-cups for the event! »

3) YOU ARE A 3.0 SEDUCER
In your digital exchanges, you do not want to look like a heavyweight. You prefer to say to your crush: “ I’ll let you start the discussion if you want. “. Best pick up phrase of 2023?

4) YOU QUESTION YOUR MASCULINITY
Sandrine said it: Deconstruction is a personal process, it takes time, reading, and also a desire to deconstruct the a priori that we may each have “. You repeat this motto to yourself every day, but you can’t quite take the leap and remove barbecues and grills from your summer programme… Could do better!

5) YOU GET OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE
You adopt the “malepolish”, this tendency to wear nail polish. Because leaving the codes of virility for a cis het’ man is transgressive – or not. You’re just a fan of Harry Styles… and that’s (very) serious.

6) YOU DON’T WANT TO APPEAR AS A PREDATOR
You were convinced that it was up to the man to take charge of the first steps in the relationship. And that being a big flirty would allow you to find your soul mate. Asshole ! I’m kidding, you’ve become the king of consent and reciprocity thanks to your seduction coach.

7) YOU TRY SPIRITUAL AWAKENING
You are part of an association that organizes listening circles with a view to recruitment in the feminist struggle. Between Neolithic men you want to change and that’s a good thing. All in chorus: Patriarchy is taboo, we will all overcome it! »

Verdict: Got more than three yes answers? Congratulations, you have just won heated briefs, the new testicular contraception.

Editor’s Note_ Our deconstructed friend Ben Névert has decided to help guys in trouble with his inspiring book Je ne suis pas viril (First, 2022). Follow the leader.

Par Anna Autin & Mathis Raymond