In modern society, some views regarding sex are more open than before, especially virginity. However, there are still people who still carry heavy old ideas, taking the “thousand of gold” as a measure of a woman’s value. This makes many women affected psychologically, health, even daily life.
Typically, the story of Ms. Thanh Nga (29 years old, from Thanh Hoa province) had to break up with her fiancé just because he attached too much importance to the “golden thing”. Ms. Nga said that when she was 25 years old, she fell in love with a young man from the same hometown, both of whom are said to be “young maidens”, both graduated from university, have stable jobs and good incomes.
After more than 1 year of love, they decided to get married and asked regarding marriage. “When we debuted and asked for family permission, both sides basically agreed and respected our decision. Everything seemed to be fine, but unexpectedly, “the wind changed direction” very quickly following just one fateful night”, Ms. Nga confided.
The young girl decided to break up with her future husband because of virginity issues.
According to Ms. Nga, following deciding to get married, she agreed to give her future husband a “thousand of gold”, but did not expect things to turn out differently. “When we had sex, everything was fine, but then he said that I was unfaithful, no longer chaste, because the first time I had sex, there was no trace left on the bed,” she said. painfully recounted.
When she received those words, Nga was dumbfounded, might only hold her face and cry and still insisted that it was her first time. However, the enemy did not believe it and both regions refused to leave, regarding a month later, they officially broke up. “Since then, I’ve been obsessed with it, not daring to love anyone, not thinking regarding getting married,” Ms. Nga said.
Recently, when her job was stable, her economic conditions and family urged her husband and children, she began to think regarding this issue. Because she had encountered such a big shock, Nga found out and decided to patch her hymen once more, because she had sex with a “missing husband” before, also to avoid encountering “flying ears and wind” like first time.
Obstetrician Le Thi Kim Dung (Hanoi) said that following hearing this girl’s story, she was angry but happy for her. “I’m glad that the girl dared to leave the other man, because the person with such thoughts will not know what the future life will be like. It’s still angry that this girl, following the other trip, put so much importance on the issue of virginity that she had to go back and patch it, “Dr. Dung shared.
Experts say that the most important thing to maintain a relationship is that both have a common voice and vibration, not a virginity issue. (Illustration)
In this case, what surprised the doctor the most was that when he examined her, he discovered that the girl’s hymen had not been torn and that was also the reason why the first time she had sex, there was no bleeding. According to Dr. Kim Dung, the hymen has many different forms, in this case the girl has a hymen with high thickness, good elasticity and can return to its normal state following sex. “Love” does not feel pain, does not bleed.
Doctor Phan Chi Thanh – National Hospital of Obstetrics and Gynecology said that the hymen of women has diverse and different shapes. For example, the hymen is mesh-shaped, intertwined, when having sex, it has to tear the membrane to penetrate, and a small amount of blood comes out.
However, if the hymen is shaped like a scarf, there is no net in the middle, plus the girls relax when having sex, there will be no bleeding. Therefore, men themselves need to understand this to avoid suspicion when seeing sex for the first time but without “signs”.
“We are living in a new era, all thoughts are much more open than before, so we shouldn’t put too much emphasis on virginity and don’t take it as a measure of a woman’s value. Moreover, the issue of virginity. does not determine the quality of “love”.
It is important for two people to be comfortable, understanding, respectful and sharing with each other. At the same time, it is necessary to practice safe sex to avoid contracting sexually transmitted diseases or getting pregnant,” emphasized Dr.
