You don’t need to witness violence to have a stress response to it.
Faced with these fears, there is stress, and the need to deal with it, especially when you are exposed to violent videos like the one of Tire Nichols’ arrest.
Therapist Jody Baumstein says that coping with the feelings that violent videos might cause you starts by talking to someone you trust.
“We have a tendency to downplay things and avoid them, but we know that avoiding them only fuels anxiety, and it’s worse,” Baumstein explained. Baumstein recommends that you face those feelings, but also listen to yourself and know your limits, and take care of yourself.
You could be physically active or take time to relax — depending on what you prefer.
“It’s not about right or wrong, it’s about figuring out what you need in that moment and taking care of yourself,” Baumstein said.
Baumstein says that young children should not be exposed to violence. Also, it is important to listen to older children. Have an open and honest conversation with them about what happened and validate their feelings.
“Give them comfort, let them know that they are safe right now,” Baumstein said. “But don’t lie to them and don’t tell them this won’t happen again because we can’t know that for sure,” he added.
If the feelings become overwhelming, talk to a therapist or doctor about the best ways to get the help you need. Remember that both your physical and mental health are in your hands.