2023-06-02 07:10:29
Having a differently-abled child is a worry in the minds of mothers. The sadness of seeing the sufferings of children and their difficulties is different. It may not be possible to go out for work or finish household chores on time as it requires full time attention and care.
I am a mother of four differently abled children. My condition is beyond what common people can imagine. Eldest son Muhammad Anas is 23 years old. The second is 21, only daughter Selva is 10 and youngest Nawaz is 4. With all four children, the most visits were to therapy centers and hospitals.
Our home is Malappuram Kotur. The elder Mon Anas was born before a year of marriage. After four months, the doctor was seen when the neck was still not covered. All stages of growth were delayed. I mightn’t really walk. Intelligence was also low. After a long period of physiotherapy and other treatments, he was able to stand and walk a little. Four months following birth, I had epilepsy. Its treatment continued till the age of seven. The first few months following the birth of the second Mon Aad were not much of a problem. It was exactly right. He was crawling on his knees and sitting. But by the eighth month, he too began to see marked changes. The doctors said that Adil has autism.
From there, only the treatment of the two people was given importance. Children’s father Mohammadali was painting in the country. Later, when I got a job in Gulf, I was able to find money for the treatment without much difficulty. My husband’s mother and my brother Shaheeb used to help us at home. We stayed in a rented house in Mysore for a few years for our children’s treatment. Even then, Anian stood by with all kinds of help. Ten years later I got pregnant once more. All the tests including genetic testing were done when she got pregnant once more as the two elder children were different. All the tests prescribed by the doctor were done at every stage of pregnancy. Doctors assured that there will be no problem and this time we will get a healthy and intelligent child.
The mole was like normal children for the first three to four months. But Molk also started seeing problems later, dashing all our hopes. None of the doctors had an answer to the question why. We did all the genetic testing available today when we conceived our youngest child. It is also true that there were no tests left to do. This time too, following seeing the test results, the doctors said, don’t be afraid of anything. That there will be no problem with the child. But the situation of the fourth child was the same as that of the eldest child. All children had cataracts by the fifth month. Its surgery was also performed.
Children’s father is the one who finds happiness in any sad situation or suffering. When I see people with a differently-abled child in distress, my husband brings them home and shows them to our four children. I am always told that we should raise our children to be an inspiration to others. They now have their father who quit his job in the Gulf to look following the children full time. The husband was also strict regarding providing the necessary treatment and therapy to the children. Now the younger two children are being treated regularly at ILU in Manjeri. I get up at four o’clock in the morning, make three meals, and following all the work is done, I only focus on taking care of the children.
Content Summary: Life of a Mother with 4 differently abled kids
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