2023-09-20 19:53:00
What is the use of foreplay (kissing, caressing, etc.) and their role in sexuality?
Foreplay is defined as any physical contact including kissing; cuddles ; caresses, particularly of erogenous zones such as the buttocks or genitals and leading to penetration.
Foreplay, a term that is debated
The term foreplay is sometimes criticized for its approach focused on vaginal penetration and the race to orgasm. “These non-penetrative sexual practices are sometimes wrongly reduced to a preceding act, a sort of mouthing, before penetration when it is a practice as such leading to desire, to increase in arousal. And thanks to which, it is entirely possible to have a very fulfilled sexuality” defends Christelle Faure, sexologist and couples therapist.
Sexuality, what do we mean by so-called foreplay positions?
If it is true that foreplay is often associated with oral sex (cunnilingus, fellatio) and digital touch, these designate much more. “There is a whole range referring to it, including words, kisses and of course positions” indicates sexology practitioner, Christelle Faure.
Ideas for the best positions to do as a couple (position 42, divine massage…)
The Kamasutra, a reference work on love, lists several “preliminary” positions. Among :
- The 42 : one of the partners must be seated comfortably on an armchair for example) and lean slightly forward. He/she then places his/her elbows on his/her legs while the other person stands, opposite, kneeling on the ground, leaning forward. In this position, the latter can then begin fellatio or cunnilingus.
- Cat’s tongue : behind this name of feline position hides in fact a well-known practice: cunnilingus. The woman lies down and raises her legs so that her partner can more easily take care of her vagina with his tongue and stimulate different parts of the clitoris.
- The divine massage : “one of the two partners will be lying down (therefore in a much more passive position) while the other will slide their hands all over their body with their hands or other desired parts of the body. Depending on the desires and sensitivity, erogenous zones such as the breasts or buttocks can be favored.
- The knee technique : as its name suggests, it simply involves stimulating the clitoris using your knee, as you would with your thigh or a pillow. More broadly, we can talk regarding dry humpingreferring to the sexual position that involves dry rubbing one’s genitals.
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What and the best position to make love without penetration?
None, except the one that you and your partner feel comfortable with. Christelle Faure, sexologist.
So there’s just more to try among many others such as the notary’s tie or even hide-and-seek… “The positions to flourish while remaining at the foreplay stage are endless” continues Christelle Faure.
Advice: how to do the so-called “preliminary” positions correctly?
“All these positions give inspiration but the important thing is really togo with intuitionby letting your body go and remaining connected to the present moment” advises Christelle Faure, sexologist. She adds: “More than trying to reproduce this or that position, it is essential to remain in fluidity and felt and that it remains comfortable, pleasant and with mutual consent.”
To vary the pleasures of this “preliminary” positions, the introduction of sex-toysmay be appropriate, always provided that the partners concerned agree with it. “If we want to bring some fun, we can also use heating oils to do “skin to skin”, while taking the necessary precautions not to irritate the mucous membranes” adds Christelle Faure, also a psychotherapist. Vegetable oils (olive, almond, etc.) with a neutral pH will be recommended.
“Finally, listening and reactions from oneself and one’s partnerare the sine qua none conditions for spending a moment of pleasure and perhaps or not, reaching orgasm” explains Christelle Faure, who adds with nuance: “Let’s not forget that women biologically need more time to increase desire, that they are most of them more cerebral” while men get there more quickly due to the fact that they are visually stimulated and that the male erection is a blood reaction.”
Contraindications, hygiene and protection…related to foreplay
If you are in an exchange with a so-called “casual” partner, protecting yourself from STIs (sexually transmitted infections) using a male/female condom will be strongly recommended. “In the case of digital introduction into the vagina, for example, think regarding wash your hands well. Also pay attention to nails which must be clean and short so as not to cause germs or skin lesions. “It’s always more pleasant to travel through areas with a good hygienenatural odors have their importance in sexuality” specifies Christelle Faure, sexologist.
Vigilance also in case of oral herpes or cuts in the mouth: ” infections can be transmitted“, the use of a condom will therefore be essential” explains the sexologist, Christelle Faure.
In short: “Penetration is not an essential component of sexuality. We can very well do without it if the foreplay is done well” emphasizes Christelle Faure. Communicating your expectations and mutual desires, upstream rather than at the moment, is also important.
It’s up to you to play!
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