The human being develops in different aspects throughout his life, and although the family is one of the most important, does not detract from other fields that may lead to greater growth.
“We have aspects of job growthof social growth and of course personal growth. And it is important to take care of each of these areas so that our evolution does not stagnate,” says psychologist Helen Muñoz.
Personal space, according to Muñoz, It is a “refuge”where each person has the opportunity to express your tastes, hobbies, develop your autonomy and personalityas well as managing your time and space.
In the case of children, personal spaces They evolve as they grow, and the older they getthe more it is sought that personal spaces focus on privacy.
For the clinical psychologist Melisa Mendoza, during childhood the personal spaces of children are primarily defined by physical and emotional securityprovided by parents.
“When children enter adolescence The need for greater autonomy and privacy begins to emerge so that they can explore their own individual identity,” explains the psychologist.
He also adds that, as time passes, People look for a space that provides them with privacy and greater autonomy.until reaching adulthood where they even look for their own personal space and not within the home with their parents.
Bad coexistence practices
There are a series of bad practices that can occur during family life that can negatively affect the emotional ties between each memberand one of them is when adults interact incorrectly with their children’s personal spaces.
For Muñoz, this problem arises when parents do not create a space for communication with their child, which causes him not to feel free to talk regarding what he wants, for fear of being judged or scolded.
“When this happens, even with the good intentions that the father may have, the child closes down and no longer tells anything.” because he prefers to avoid scolding, punishment or embarrassment from any situation in which he may expose himself”says Muñoz.
Added to this, pThere may be overprotective behaviors on the part of parentswanting to control every aspect of your life, even though it may be out of a desire for your child to be well and nothing bad happens to them.
“If coexistence avoids certain patterns, which only benefit someone or that someone’s voice is nullified or that the development of other people is not allowedbut only for some, there is a serious problem there,” indicates the expert.
Boundaries
The two psychologists agreed that, for a healthy coexistence, it is necessary to establish limits within the dynamicsTo achieve this, promoting an environment of communication is key.
“It is essential to establish limits clearly and communicate openly with each member and specific areas in the home might be assignedsuch as personal areas, respecting the alone time of each member, encouraging individual activities that can help, etc.,” says Mendoza.
He adds that promoting an appropriate communication environment at home and respecting each of the children’s personal spaces, will result in minors being able to function in a better way and that they share part of their interests with them.
“Parents can get closer to those personal spaces of their children by cultivating open and respectful communicationshowing genuine interest and respecting their privacy,” says the psychologist.
Boundaries are also important when There are cases where two or more children share the same room.which makes having personal space a little more complicated.
“We have to learn to identify what limits we should respect from other people. But also, What limits do I need to set in my space? Because, even if I am sharing a room or sharing a common space in the house, my actions will have an impact on those other people with whom I am living,” says Muñoz.
Communication
Both Muñoz and Mendoza recommend establish communication spaces within the familyespecially in cases where the children are at a much older age and are part of family decisions
“In this dialogue process, there must be a clear conversation regarding how the family space is going to be managed, including family meetings or activities, understanding that it is no longer that sanctions are going to be imposed or certain behaviors imposed, but agreements are going to be reached so that coexistence works”says Muñoz.
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