Setting a goal in work or doing things in life that “everything must come out the best” is something that many people try to do every day. But..in fact, the “perfectionism” or Perfectionist It can become a double-edged sword that causes one’s mind to become tired and depressed in the long run.
According to the American Academy of Pediatrics, a perfectionist (Perfectionism) has this behavior innate. They tend to express more of a “fixed” mindset than a “growing” mindset, both of which are different. which affect different mental states as well
Dead thoughts: It is believed that people are born with innate talents and abilities. These individuals set very high standards. and try to avoid failure in every possible way Failure can cause them to lower their self-esteem.
Growth mindset: Believe in your ability to learn and grow over time. They can easily overcome defeat. Failure is not tied to self-worth. They believe that people can make mistakes, they can fail, and there is always a chance of success.
- Characteristics of a Perfectionist How do you behave?
In addition, psychologists have found that there are certain behaviors that signal Perfectionist which are clearly
- Committed to achieving high standards
- want to be neat and need to be even more neat
- worry about mistakes No room for mistakes
- sensitivity to other people’s criticism
- self-criticism
- Failure is accepted (as is the norm in life).
- Set unrealistically high standards with loved ones or family.
Although the behavior inperfectionismIt’s not a mental disorder. But if it happens regularly, it will result in stress. anxiety Because they associate self-worth with performance. and tend to work in extreme ways when things Pushed to make mistakes. These Perfectionist the more obsessed with that mistake and increasing anxiety in everyday life
- Perfectionist There is only one advantage But there are many disadvantages!
As Tracy Dennis Tiwary, a professor of psychology and neuroscience in New York City, USA, similarly told the Washington Post, Perfectionism has few advantages. But there are many disadvantages to mental health, whether low self-esteem, depression, anxiety disorder, obsessive compulsive disorder eating disorders, etc. When faced with a mistake, there is a high level of stress. and even lead to suicide.
Also, perfectionists tend to achieve less than they expect. because they are reckless Procrastinate, get bored, and give up the challenge altogether. because he felt that he did not participate in the competition at all It’s better than competing and losing.
- Change a Perfectionist to an Excellenceist for better mental health.
However, there are ways to correct and adjust new attitudes so that “working age“Still working out well and efficient. without having to put pressure on yourself by changing from A Perfectionist is instead an Excellenceist, that is, working towards excellence rather than perfection.
Patrick Gaudreau, Professor of Psychology University of Ottawa, Canada, stated that Excellence focuses on doing great work even if it’s not perfect. Emphasis on being open to new experiences Take a unique approach to problem solving. and feel free to make mistakes As long as they can learn from that mistake to aim for great success.
For people of working age who know they belong Perfectionist and want to change behavior may start easily by adjusting the thought process By learning to understand and accept that “Life is inherently full of uncertainty.“Calm down and mindfulness It will make you better accept adverse events. It also helps you focus on your thoughts and work better.
As already mentioned, the behavior Perfectionist linked to various mental health problems. Therefore,perfectionismIt has a very negative effect on mental health. If you know how to let go reduce high standards and allow yourself to make some mistakes It will help to have better mental health.
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refer : Psychologytoday, WashingtonPost, UMPC Health Beat