I think it’s so hard, sisters. Before, I thought that if I lived with my husband’s parents wholeheartedly, they would treat me the same way. But then when I entered the married life, I realized that it is not so easy. Who said that the husband’s family time is easier, but in my family, there is no such thing.
At first, my wife and I decided to live with our parents. The first is being close to grandparents, the second is that the two of them did not earn much at that time. If you live with your parents, it’s considered to save a part of the cost. Normally, we only eat at home in the evening, on weekends we go home or go out to eat, so it’s not worth much. However, I still send my mother-in-law 3 million to go to the market.
I thought that much money was enough, because my mother-in-law did not say a word. However, that day, I accidentally overheard her whispering to the neighbors. She said her parents-in-law are lucky because their children all live in the same house. So my mother-in-law sighed:
“Oh well, that’s normal, miss. They’re here to save money. The month gave me a few silver coins, I still have to make up for it. In the summer, the air conditioner is turned on all night, and then it is hot or cold to take a bath. Think regarding it, it gave me 3 million just enough for electricity and water.
Hearing that, I’m very sad. Maybe we give a little, but if it’s not satisfactory, your mother-in-law should talk to the children instead of telling the neighbors like that. When I was pregnant, I had morning sickness, craving for some expensive things. My husband just teased my mother to buy it for her daughter-in-law to eat. So she scolded:
“You can give a few million a month, but it’s so demanding. From now on, come home and cook for yourself. Mother-in-law at home cooked for her and still demanded. In other families, the daughter-in-law comes home and rolls into the kitchen for the whole family, not as happy as this.”
See, sisters, I go to the bank, especially late. This is what I told you before we got married. But when she got angry, her mother-in-law brought this matter to blame. My husband is also straightforward, following that day, he told me to live separately. Anyway, the money has to add a few million per month, but what is free and comfortable. I also heard reasonable, so I agreed to do as my husband said.
At first, following moving out, my mother-in-law was also very angry with me. She thought that I was whispering behind her son’s back, that’s why there was such a big deal in private. But I don’t care, because everything is decided by my husband. However, following giving birth, I realized that my boarding house had many shortcomings. Since it’s a level 4 house, it hasn’t been repaired yet, so even with air conditioning, it’s still hot in the summer, ladies. We adults are okay, but when I see my children have a rash for a few days, I feel very sorry.
My mother-in-law always told us to go home every time she came to play with me. The house is tall, wide, and airy, it is not acceptable. Just snuggle up in that damp inn. The other day my husband said:
“Well, let me move to another place, but when I return, I will hate my wife and children. That’s even more tiring.”
Hearing that, my mother-in-law scribbled:
“So now your parents give you their parents’ land. The other day, my mother discussed with my father, when we have money, we will build a house and then go there to live. Just live temporarily like this, when will you be able to buy land and build a house?”
That statement from my mother-in-law made me think a lot. It is true that you should have your own house. Moreover, my mother-in-law also said that following the house was built, my grandparents would transfer the names to the two of us. My parents told me so, why would they backfire with us? That night, I discussed with my husband, that the couple’s savings would be used to build a house. Where else, I go home to borrow money. Anyway, when it comes to building a house, my parents will lend it to me.
After that, my wife and I built a house with 2 trees, sisters. Once done, it will cost you 1 billion 2. Half of it is borrowed from your biological parents. This Tet, my wife and I are supposed to go to a new home. However, yesterday when I went to take over the project, I saw that my mother-in-law’s furniture had already been moved. When asked, she calmly said:
“Mom went to see the teacher, people said this land is suitable for parents. There are many more rooms in the house, how can the children live in it?”
Oh, I’m just standing there. Why did my mother-in-law come back so quickly? Obviously, from the very beginning, she told us to build a house to live in. Why did she just come back and live before me and my wife? My husband is also very angry, yesterday I went to ask regarding the situation to see when my parents will change my name, my mother-in-law always avoids it, saying that the year is over, my grandparents are busy with many things, so I can’t arrange it.
Now I don’t know how to talk to my biological parents anymore. That house has half of the money that belongs to my parents. If my grandparents knew that I mightn’t live and didn’t change my name, they would probably have a heart attack. Sisters, what should I do with my mother-in-law to make her do as she promised?