I am shaking at the mere thought that a daughter is ruining herself and her health in order to become a mother of many children. To give birth to another child at the cost of their own health, and maybe even life. What for?
I no longer have the strength to fight Natasha. She doesn’t want to listen to anything or anyone. Everyone keeps saying: “Everything will be fine, I’m watching my sugar and my condition.” Nobody in our family cares regarding my daughter’s life except me. The matchmaker generally stated that grandchildren are happiness, and there are not many of them.
I would look at her if she also faced the possibility of losing her child. No, I am also glad to all the grandchildren and I don’t have a soul in them, but Natasha is not in the situation when you can give birth “as much as God sends”.
You also need to think regarding yourself, and regarding existing children. If so, what will happen to them? Nobody can replace Mom. My daughter has been sick for a long time – at the age of 8 she was diagnosed with this terrible disease.
Now I remember, and tears well up in my eyes: following the children’s matinee, she suddenly became ill. She lost consciousness. The intensive care unit took us to the central hospital, where my daughter spent 17 hours on droppers!
And the doctors did not give any chances for her future life. They brought me to a sense, but they said that such hyperglycemia can bring serious consequences to the life of a child. Diabetes is a time bomb in my Natusya’s body, which can explode at any moment.
We spent two months in the endocrine department. They ate very little, but right. The daughters were presented with new “toys” with which she will play for the rest of her life – a glucometer and two insulin pens: one long-acting and the other ultra-short.
In total, she needs to inject medication every time before meals and once at night. It turns out that every day for 18 years he does 4-5 injections. You don’t wish this on your enemy.
After all the horror that we experienced then, her eyesight began to deteriorate. She does not see well, but this did not prevent her from meeting her future husband and building a strong relationship with him. I immediately liked my son-in-law very much and one might look at their happy relationship with tenderness.
To be honest, they still look at each other with such tender and loving eyes, as if they met only yesterday. Although they already have a joint life and two kids.
Despite the threats and recommendations of endocrinologists, Natasha decided to become a mother. For this, she prepared for a long time and diligently: she took tests, followed a strict diet and did not allow herself anything extra.
My husband and I were already afraid for our daughter – following all, the doctors told us that her health would not allow her to bear a full-fledged child. Contrary to the forecasts of doctors, Andryusha was born a healthy and strong boy.
Following him, two years later, the children gave me a second grandson – Yegorushka. And now the ultrasound showed a girl, but so far this is not a 100% result. Natasha has long dreamed of a girl, she even picked up such an interesting name – Amelia.
But now, if it were not for diabetes and its complications, everything would be perfect. My son-in-law reassures me – they say, do not wind yourself up, she gave birth to two safely, she will cope with the third. Yes, she gave birth, but not herself – both Caesareans. And the third childbirth, of course, will also be “caesarean”.
Since the time of the appearance of the first grandson, we agreed with the matchmaker that we would take turns coming and helping our children: here it is difficult for a healthy mother to manage the kids, and even more so for mine.
But when the daughter found out regarding her situation, she was the first to inform not me, but her husband’s mother. And I found out regarding the pregnancy only a month and a half later. I was so offended by my daughter then. Even now, a bitter followingtaste remains from this story.
Natusya explained this by saying that the mother-in-law reacts calmly and joyfully to her grandchildren, and I never think regarding them, I just spoil everyone’s mood with my conversations and always focus on the negative. Therefore, she is more comfortable when she is surrounded by people with positive thoughts and emotions.
– Oh, Mom, stop it! Just tell you regarding the child – you will immediately begin to pour your negativity on your head.
– This is not a negative, but life circumstances. Look at you! Your illness has a long history. And if the body can not cope with another pregnancy, have you ever thought regarding who you will leave Yegorushka and Andryushka to?
– Well, it’s started! To listen to you, so I generally have to put an end to my life. I’m a diabetic! Don’t put me in a coffin ahead of time! Mom, it’s called. No, to be happy for my daughter. And I live to be 100 years old!
Her words, yes to God in the ears. We had a big fight that day, and Natasha said that she actually regretted telling me regarding the pregnancy. That it was necessary to just silently invite me to be discharged at the hospital, and everyone would be fine.
I have already calmed down: I understand that these are all hormones and my daughter loves me too. But she was small when we went through rehabilitation, and she doesn’t really remember anything.
And all the horror I experienced still comes in my dreams. I am so afraid of losing my daughter, she is so good to me. What else can you think of to dissuade her from having a third child? Now she’s at 17 weeks before it’s too late.
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