I divorced 3 years ago, then the couple had a baby girl together. The ex-wife insisted on custody of the children, I saw that, so I also agreed. Living alone for nearly a year, I found it too hard, so I hired a helper to take care of my personal life.
Initially, I hired a middle-aged woman, but the people of the previous generation did not meet my requirements. More than a year ago, I was introduced by an acquaintance to a woman in her 30s in the countryside.
This maid was divorced from her husband, her children were sent to her adoptive mother, while she went to the city to find a job.
Careful, clean, hard-working, and willing to learn, I’m very satisfied.
Every day I come home from work, I have hot rice and sweet soup waiting for me, my house is neat, and there is a woman who always smiles and listens to me venting all my frustrations outside.
I gradually fell in love with Lan – the maid’s name. If you look closely, you can see that she is also quite good, although not beautiful but not ugly, healthy, 2 years younger than me, her personality is very suitable for me.
Then we went back and forth, there’s nothing wrong with single men and women. I like Lan because she doesn’t ask for anything, unlike the women out there who want me to provide everything.
Last week, Lan announced she was pregnant. I am very happy, I only have one daughter with my ex-wife, so it would be great if Lan had more children for her.
To be honest, when I went back and forth with Lan, I didn’t identify anything because she was just a maid. But now that she’s pregnant, I can’t leave my baby out of wedlock. Well, let Lan stay at home to do housework and take care of the children.
Thinking that, I told Lan to register her marriage and then live together without having to organize a wedding to do anything expensive. I thought Lan would be very happy, getting me is like winning the lottery with a country woman who has no talent like her. Unexpectedly, Lan’s answer shocked me so much that I fell back:
If you want to marry me, you must agree to two conditions. Firstly, even though the wedding ceremony is not held, there must be a few or seven trays to share the joy with relatives and close friends. Besides, you still have to pay me the same salary because I still have to do those jobs.
I was so angry:
– Can I say that? Taking care of her husband and children, why does the family ask for a salary?
– My specialty is working as a maid, who said I don’t have any expertise? Before getting married, you paid me a salary, when I got married, I didn’t pay any more, like I worked as an unpaid maid? If you marry me, you won’t get any more benefits, and I will benefit greatly, so why should I marry you?
If you don’t marry me, I still have to provide for the children and fulfill the responsibility of being a father. And if I don’t work for you, I work for another house and get paid. If it were you, which option would you choose?
– Don’t you understand that husband and wife living together value love? Now I only think regarding money, why don’t I think regarding when I’m sick or sick with a husband to take care of me?”
– Come on, don’t talk regarding tomorrow, just look ahead. Are you sure when I’m sick, will you stay by my side or leave the debt free and gain custody of the children? I just get paid and then take care of myself when I’m sick, don’t bother others!
I choked at Lan’s argument “as flat as a crab”. But she insisted that I have to pay my salary to get married. If Lan is not pregnant, I will terminate her job immediately. Too bad she’s carrying my baby.
I really want to have more children, but I am also 37 years old and there is not much time left to find out and remarry with someone else. For the past week, because of the maid’s reply, I was extremely shocked, unable to eat or sleep. How do I convince and advise Lan to understand the reasoning?