2023-06-03 11:33:53
Every time we work for the awakening of consciousness, it is very satisfying to know that we can relearn new models and train kind conscience for our well-being.
I don’t know anyone who doesn’t want to be treated with kindness, love, understanding and compassion. And I wonder do we apply that to ourselves?
Are we capable of treating each other kindly and gently? In times when judgement, self-criticism, psychological and physical self-harm abound, it is crucial to answer these questions.
How about we give ourselves a little space, take a breath, pause to fill ourselves with new strength and self-love, taking care of ourselves more? It seems that we are living in the middle of a jungle filled only with unfair competition, self-protection, heartbreak, confusion, anger, sadness and crying. And it is not like that, life has much more. We just need to connect once again with that inner strength called gratitude, self-recognition, positive self-assessment and awareness that we are more than irrational thoughts and/or maladaptive behaviors.
We need to learn to enjoy more of that friendly conscience, which we can access if we just do a little mental silence, if we escape from so much negative internal dialogue and see in our intimacy the great power we have to transform our inner world.
The transformative power of kind awareness
Can you imagine a family life where we can talk about what happens to us, without fear of judgment, abuse and abandonment? Did you know that many people, including children, adolescents and adults, live like this in their homes, that many adults also experience fear of being abandoned and that is why they unconsciously remain attached to relationships full of psychological and physical abuse? Did you know that for many people social networks have become a way to escape from their reality or that self-harm represents relief? How about ending so much unnecessary suffering? Can differences be settled in an adaptive and functional way? I am convinced yes.
For this, we urgently need a dose of inner peace, gentleness, kindness and a lot of understanding for ourselves and for others. Life asks us for it, also mental and physical health, family, companies and the country need it.
Kindfulness seeks to bring unconditional love and purposeful kindness to full awareness, the foundations of positive emotions. Its translation could be: “kind attention or conscience” and its four principles provide the way to achieve it:
Unconditional Love, to forgive us, forgive and ask for forgiveness for not being perfect.
Compassion, to recognize that we are suffering and that our affections also suffer from the way we lead life and that empathy is key to reducing pain without prejudice or conditions.
Joy, to enjoy the good times, the strength of hope, optimism, gratitude and especially the great miracle of life.
Equanimity, to accept and flow with life as it is, in inner balance. Without avoiding emotions and recognizing the opportunities offered by each experience.
Undoubtedly, each of these principles will help us lead a fuller, more satisfying life, aware of the changes we may experience, assuming responsibility for our results without blaming others, and aware that our children need to know that we are there for them, to teach them these conscious virtues for their greatest benefit. That, even if the parents are separated or have differences, they can feel respect for their rights and guidance for the fulfillment of their duties, without ceasing to express unconditional love, beyond ego and personal skills.
Kind conscience can be trained and learned.
Every time we work for the awakening of consciousness, it is very satisfying to know that we can relearn new models and train a friendly conscience for our well-being and that of those we love. The best of all is that we do not have to go to Tibet to achieve the change that our being demands. With simple, simple and daily actions we can practice and cultivate a friendly Conscience or loving Kindness:
· Meditating daily, for example, with basic breathing exercises.
· Speaking kindly, it doesn’t matter if you haven’t made it so far. Do not stay with the famous “I am like this”. He begins today to say hello, apologize.
· Relate with kindness using magic words in each space in which you find yourself and according to the people with whom you interact: please, thank you, I’m sorry, forgive me, I love you, I understand you, I hear you, I’m here for you, let’s talk.
· Do gratitude exercises every day.
· Let go of the past. Don’t blame yourself anymore for what happened.
· Show interest in the other, without interfering in their process.
· Be compassionate and understanding. Don’t judge your neighbor, remember that people are suffering horrors inside their mind.
· Act from understanding and compassion, with firmness, love and gentleness.
· If you feel overwhelmed, seek professional help.
· Become aware that being kind does not mean being weak or stupid. It is a sample of love and virtues within you.
Kindfulness, a sample of friendly awareness, key to inner well-being and full happiness, in the midst of adversity.
Yamilet Pinto
Psychologist
@yamiletpinto
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