Make yourself look good
For Julia Schillinger, referent midwife of the mother-child service of the Kantys group: “There is a difference between primiparous [femme dont c’est le premier enfant] who regret not being able to receive and the multiparous [qui ont déjà eu un enfant] who are happy to be able to stay fair with the spouse and possibly the siblings. They tell us they have mixed memories of when the tours were wide open, of feeling tired, in bad shape and forcing themselves to put on a good face.”
This is also what emerges from the questionnaire that we posted on nicematin.com. Allison, 35, says: “If I had the choice, I would have liked that my loved ones had not come barely an hour following my delivery without asking my consent.”
Only grandparents
The question is all the more important when it comes to a shared room. Thus, Elisabeth, 59, remembers with bitterness the birth of her second child: “The room was invaded from morning to evening by the football team of my roommate, I have very bad memories of it. I would have liked to have peace for my baby and me. »
Allison bounces back: “Time in the maternity ward should be dedicated to parents and siblings with, for example, a single visit from grandparents for a limited time. This idea of privileging the co-parent and the brothers and sisters is found in Audrey, 34, and Emmanuelle, 46. Gaëlle, 38, completes: “Time in the hospital is a privileged time where bonds are created with the baby. To preserve it is to make it possible to enjoy its first moments. “Especially since” the mother needs to get to know her newborn baby but also to rest because she has just experienced a trying moment, “adds Samantha, 28 years old.
A cocoon just for three
The idea of making the hospital stay a bubble is mentioned several times. Stéphanie, 39, details: “He shouldn’t have visitors. These few days must be a cocoon for the new parents and the baby. The comings and goings of the nursing staff already punctuate the days, we need calm and to take our marks quietly. Alia, 40, gave birth during the Covid period. She is in the same state of mind and goes further: “I prefer not to have had a visitor than to have been invaded. And I even regret having let myself be caught up in the many calls and messages. To redo, I would have left the phone to concentrate on the first days of my little one. »
