So help the children with their children, and then we ourselves find ourselves to blame. I am once morest my grandchildren spending all day on their gadgets, and I want to do better for them.
My daughter never cared regarding the health of her children. The main thing for her is that they do not distract her from their affairs, and what the sons will do with their leisure time is their problem.
The older one already wears glasses, and all because of his smartphones. Although my daughter proved to me with foam at the mouth that my eyesight was planted because of football, I do not believe in these fairy tales. She would also say that a healthy diet has a negative effect on the stomach!
Madina simply covers up her laziness and omission: Nikita played day and night either on a laptop or on a phone. Here is the result: he became a bespectacled man at the age of 7. And the younger one goes there.
While my daughter was on maternity leave, I did not work myself, and I had more opportunities to help her with the children. In fact, I was the only one who was engaged in their development: I occupied my grandchildren with useful games, and the rest of the time (without me) they sat and dulled in these mobile phones.
My grandchildren are very smart and inquisitive guys. I have worked as a teacher for 20 years and understand children’s possibilities. But, the main condition for the harmonious and effective development of children is to regularly engage with them.
No matter how much I teach my daughter, it’s all to no avail. She does not understand that she is depriving her children of the opportunity to grow up as intellectually developed men. The sooner you deal with them, the more prospects will open up for them.
2 months ago, Madina brought me her grandchildren for the weekend, and she went on vacation with her friends. She brought them to me every weekend, leaving sometimes for 1 day, sometimes for 2, as she wants.
I don’t care, I’m ready to take the boys to live with me. True, I have now returned to work, so there is not much time to deal with my grandchildren. Anyway, I devote all my free time to them.
After that incident, my daughter stopped bringing children, she said that I “spoiled their psyche with my upbringing.” Sounds funny from her lips, but that’s what I was told on the phone. And the question was trifling.
Usually, when my grandchildren come to me, I try to put aside my affairs and pay as much attention to them as possible. The younger one and I have already learned almost the entire alphabet, and numbers, and different animals, and planets. In general, we do not waste time in vain.
With senior I like to communicate “heart to heart”. From time to time we play geographical loto or different quizzes with him. He loves board games, but he says mom and dad don’t have time to play with him. And with friends it doesn’t work, because he can’t invite anyone to visit him.
On the next visit of my grandchildren, I was immersed in the labor process – I had to check tests and prepare for a difficult test week. So that time, I asked them to play a little on their own until I got my work done.
When I left my room for short breaks, I always found the same picture – both grandchildren are sitting on smartphones. Although the youngest is now four years old, he has also been given a personal phone: if only his parents would not get it. Now they sit all day long, buried in mobile screens.
In my house, I tried to distract them from useless activities: I got encyclopedias, coloring books, exciting children’s magazines. But they looked at all this and did not understand what to do with them.
You need to sit with children and involve them in the game process – tell them like kids. And I didn’t have time for that. So I had no choice but to pick up their phones and go to my room. Of course, no one let me cope with the work: both of them started banging on the door and demanding that their smartphones be returned to them.
I explained to my grandchildren that frequent pastime at the screen of a gadget or a computer monitor can result in blindness or, at least, severe visual impairment.
The kids didn’t care and when my daughter arrived they complained regarding me. They presented it as if I put them in a concentration camp! Madina was silent that evening, did not utter anything to me, but displeasure was read on her face.
After 2 days, she informed me that she would no longer leave her sons with me: it would be better for her to “sacrifice” her rest than the mental health of her children.
I raised my daughter myself, but I still don’t understand where the mistake was made. Why does she perceive my upbringing and care for the health of her grandchildren as psychological abuse?
I want to see my grandchildren like before. But I need to teach them to be independent from smartphones. Because the daughter obviously will not cope with this task, and then she herself will bite her elbows, running around ophthalmologists.
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