06 avril 2023
Erotic dreams come without warning and do not always have real meaning. But how to interpret them? When these little nocturnal films become more and more frequent, we would like to know what they can hide…
Depending on the periods we go through, we can have erotic dreams related to our lack of sexual fulfillment in real life. Or, conversely, our tendency to have these kinds of dreams and to remember them can be nourished by intense sexual activity, or at least by a relationship to desire that is very present in us.
In any case, erotic dreams correspond to « the staging in our imaginary space of what we would like to do in reality », explains Serge Stoléru, psychiatrist and author of the book ” A brain named desire – sex, love and neuroscience “. In detail, according to an Insee study published on the subject, the most recurrent situations occupying the dreamlike space classified “X” are: making love with a stranger, with a person of the same sex, at the office with a co-worker, in an unusual place or with a celebrity.
« Excitement feeds on imagination »
When they occur from time to time, there is often something pleasant regarding erotic dreams. And we are sometimes surprised by the partner(s) we met during our nights, whether or not we met in real life. Or even the composition of certain scenes. Still, these night dreams can boost our libido once awake. ” Excitement feeds on imagination, sometimes crazy, sometimes twistedbecause the imaginary is the full extent of the possible, an extraordinary reinforcement to the simply genital excitement », Underlines Elisa Brune in her book « Lab Sexo, good news of female pleasure ».
What impact on mental health?
If we stick to the Freudian theory, the unconscious and life drives lead us to such dreams. So don’t worry. But to what extent can these resonate on our psychic life? If they take on too repetitive and invasive character, they can become deleterious to our mental health. In any case, it can be useful to confide in you if ever these too frequent dreams trigger a form of psychological suffering.
Last question: what meaning if these sensual and evocative dreams of our desire occur very often even when we are in a relationship? It can be a sign of a lack of fulfillment in our sexual life, of a desire to discover ourselves differently alone and/or with our partner in this area. If this intrigues you, or even worries you, why not try talking regarding it as a couple and/or confide in, alone or in pairs, to a psychologist and sex therapist?
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Source : “Sex lab good news of female pleasure”, Elisa Brune, Editions Odile Jacob – “A brain named desire – sex, love and neurosciences”, Serge Stoléru, Odile Jacob Sciences.
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Written by : Laura Bourgault – Edited by: Vincent Roche
