My husband and I have been married for 3 years and live with my mother-in-law. Knowing that he was the only son and had an elderly mother, I accepted to follow him as a bride and also determined to live with his mother-in-law. However, things are not as simple as I thought.
Mother-in-law seeing her daughter-in-law is uncomfortable
My mother-in-law was not gentle, knowing what I expected. She always felt uncomfortable when she saw me staying up late at work and waking up late in the morning. When I was in confinement, she helped cook a meal and grumbled at me for an hour.
I am a lover of work, currently working as a sales manager of an import-export company. My salary is one and a half times higher than my husband’s salary. However, I don’t have much time to spend with my family.
After giving birth for 4 months, I went back to work and asked my mother-in-law to take care of the baby. Although busy with young children, I rarely take time off. Every time my child is sick, I ask my husband and mother-in-law to take him to the hospital. My work is always busy. If I quit my job, everything will come to a standstill.
At the end of this year, I have a business trip to help the company sign a contract with a big partner. When I left, my mother-in-law and husband both expressed dissatisfaction because my child was sick. In the near future, there is an anniversary in the countryside, and my mother-in-law wants my whole family to go back to my hometown to “present” to look beautiful. However, due to work, I still decided to go on a business trip for a week.
Husband was beaten for sleeping with his wife, but mother-in-law blamed her daughter-in-law
My business trip lasted 1 week, but on the 3rd day, I was in a meeting when I saw my mother-in-law calling continuously without stopping. By the time I went out of the meeting room, I called back and my mother-in-law scolded: “Your husband was beaten and hospitalized, are you still sitting there and having a meeting with the onions? This house is really unlucky”.
Hearing what my mother-in-law said, I hurriedly arranged work to return home earlier than planned. It turned out that my husband had his skull fractured and had to be hospitalized for a few days.
The next day, Mr. Trung, who beat my husband, also came to the house to clarify everything. Mr. Trung said he caught my husband in bed with his wife, so he mightn’t control it and beat my husband.
He also came to my house to apologize for his rude behavior, but it was not my husband’s fault. He wants the two families to settle in the direction of love instead of taking each other to the law. After two years and ten years, I felt extremely depressed and disappointed.
I loudly reproached my husband, but my mother-in-law defended my husband. She said it was all my fault. “You are busy all day and night, then Nam (my husband) doesn’t have a boyfriend. Do you see anyone as a wife and mother like you? What’s the point in blaming your husband? I’m Nam, I’ve left you to go. married someone else. The wife has to get married.” my mother-in-law scolded me.
My husband said that because I was too busy with work and had no time for my husband and children, he fell in love with other people. Their relationship is just beginning, nothing serious. He said if I would change and spend more time with my family, he promised not to contact that woman anymore.
What my husband said hurt me so much. Why does my husband work so hard that it’s all my fault in the end? What did I do wrong? What do I have to do now?