2023-07-18 11:28:00
Before the wedding, I agreed with my husband to plan at least 2 years to focus on my career. When the job, stable income, I was born. He happily agreed, saying that everything respects my intentions, but right following the marriage, he turned his attitude, asking his wife:
“Women who are married must put childbirth and family care first. If you can do the job, do it, if you don’t, then quit.”
He also brought his wife’s parents into the game, putting pressure on me to have a baby. After leaving my family in peace, I had to give birth to my husband’s will.
On the day my water broke, I gave birth to my first baby, I was in pain for almost 2 days, the uterus was only 6 centimeters open, the baby’s head was big, the pelvis was narrow, finally the doctor had to appoint a cesarean section.
A few days following discharge from the hospital, I had postpartum hemorrhage once more. The most dangerous thing is that I belong to a rare blood type, the hospital does not have a reserve of blood, so I have to mobilize everywhere. Fortunately, the doctor handled it in time to save his life.
Having given birth to my first child, I had to face many difficulties and dangers. (Illustration)
However, my husband was indifferent, he did not pay attention to his wife from the time she was pregnant to the time she gave birth. Even when he saw me wince at the pain of the caesarean section, he still indifferently closed his mouth:
“People are also full of babies, still busy doing things, have you seen anyone complaining like me. I’m the kind of rich man who stepped on thorns.”
After giving birth, I found my health much weaker. Moreover, thinking regarding the fact that I used to be in the middle of life and death when I gave birth, I still can’t stop feeling scared. When the border is vital, what I worry regarding is not myself but the thought that if I lose, my little daughter will be helpless. Because of that, I don’t want to have a second child. I want to focus all my energy and time on taking care of one child.
My husband was different, the child was 2 years old, he urged his wife to give birth once more. Even though I explained to the best of my ability, the husband still did not understand his wife’s thoughts, he always pressured him to say:
“I can do whatever I want, I must give birth to another child.”
Because of the birth, my wife and I quarreled countless times. Even if I give a reason, if I give birth a second time, I may have to face the door of death once more like the first time, he still insisted:
“Now that medicine is more advanced, my job is to give birth. No worries at all.”.
After 2 years of children, my husband forced his wife to have more children, not caring regarding his wife’s thoughts and stance (Illustration image).
When I refused, he once once more called his wife’s parents and asked them to convince me to give birth according to her husband’s wishes. But because he had directly witnessed the scene of his daughter nearly losing her life in the operating room, his grandparents advised him not to risk his wife’s life, giving birth to one. Immediately, he was hostile, blaming my whole family for not knowing how to teach children. Then he went to challenge his wife:
“If you stubbornly refuse to have more children, I declare that I will have an affair and find someone to give birth to you. Then don’t blame me.”
Too fed up with my husband’s selfish thinking, I went to my room to get a divorce petition and put it on the table:
“You had the intention of adultery, I do not forbid. But before you fall in love, you sign the papers, we’re divorced, you can do whatever you want. I make it clear for you to know, I will never use birth to keep my husband.”.
Looking at the letter of his wife’s signature, my husband understood that his wife was mentally prepared, as well as her resolute attitude to not give in. With no other choice, he was forced to “get into the water”, saying that the matter of giving birth was up to me. If I change my mind to have more children in the future, I will give birth, otherwise he will not force me anymore.
Signs of bleeding following cesarean section
If you experience the following signs, you need to be examined and treated urgently because it is most likely to be bleeding following cesarean section:
– Abnormal vaginal bleeding. It’s normal to bleed and discharge following giving birth, but if the bleeding is massive, bright red, red, bruised, with blood clots, thin blood, you must be very careful.
– The uterus is abnormally enlarged in width, soft to the touch, no safety sphere is seen on the scapula. This might be due to bleeding in the uterus. At this point, you need to see a doctor immediately.
-Due to a lot of blood loss, women will have low blood pressure, pale face, sweating, heart palpitations…
These are the signs of postpartum hemorrhage, women need to pay close attention. If bleeding is not treated promptly, women can experience dangerous complications, sometimes even death. Possible complications include: kidney failure, multi-organ failure, postpartum infection, anemia, thrombophlebitis, Sheehan’s syndrome, amenorrhea, milk loss, uterine infection…
Prevention of postpartum haemorrhage
To prevent postpartum hemorrhage, women need to adhere to the following:
– Go to antenatal care, full postpartum examination to promptly diagnose and detect diseases. Postpartum problems
– Choose reputable medical facilities to monitor pregnancy and childbirth, avoid unintended incidents.
During pregnancy, mothers need to ensure adequate nutrition to avoid anemia. At the same time, the mother needs to apply a suitable diet so that the fetus is not too big.
– After giving birth, women must also apply a regimen of living, resting in moderation, absolutely not doing heavy work, not being stressed to avoid bleeding.
– During the period of 42 days following giving birth, women need to be closely monitored their health situation, if there is any abnormality, they must be examined immediately.
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