2023-12-31 10:00:00
There are things that are cultural. Many actions respond to beliefs. The dilemma arises when the mandate is not compatible with the enjoyment. The reality is that we must choose how to spend New Year’s Eve for ourselves from the adult that we are.
Perhaps the decision is to celebrate in a context that one, first, I would not have chosen, but it is worth it to make parents and grandparents happy. We have to be aware that we are the great generators of contexts with our own emotionality.
If we act out of emotion it means that we were able to integrate reason with what we feel and negotiate. Definitely, New Year’s Eve lasts just two hours, meaning that we can give a lot of joy to the people who gave us life and following the toast go celebrate with friends, for example. Have emotional responsibility with each other so we have to be careful and respectful.
On the other hand, we have to be able to look at our decision as a learning experience, whether it is having been able to be kind or having been able to remain silent, which is no small thing.
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The point is that we must learn to open conversations. We don’t even know how to converse with our partner, with our friends, with our employees. We assume everything. We are linguistic beings No matter where you look at us, even when we remain silent we are silent with our breathing. So we should be able to tell people that they are valuable for us what we really feel.
Before managing our emotions, we have to learn to build our relationships opening the conversation.
In the case of blended families, the dynamics of the celebration can become complex and the tension of the ties appears like the great stone guest between the children of one and the ex-partners of the other. But is it necessary to spend them all together?
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Sometimes, social pressure pushes us to comply with the mandate to spend the holidays with family, but it is worth asking if, really, we are choosing freely.
Is it better to give in to obligation and face conflict, transmitting to our children an image of discontent and disagreement? Fidelity to traditions does not always translate into emotional well-being; Therefore, exploring alternatives is essential.
Talk to all parties involved, agree and understand that the children’s choices do not imply less love for the other parent.
Integrating assembled children requires attention: facilitate, but without imposing wishes. It is crucial to recognize that, despite the complexity, the adult is the one who decides.
Maintaining balance in the family order implies that whoever occupies the role of father makes conscious decisions.
*ontological coach, teacher and speaker.
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