Depending on the child’s age, fears change, whether it’s monsters, the dark, or even storms. If they disappear with age, in the case of a phobia, the fear is much more intense and lasts longer.
How to differentiate fear from phobia?
Being afraid is part of the normal development of the child who learns in this way to avoid putting himself in danger. However, when the fear becomes excessive, and invasive to the point of preventing him from going to school, sleeping or eating, it is because it is a phobia that requires treatment.
Phobias generally appear between the ages of 7 and 11, and most often affect girls. If the fear is particularly excessive, it is also accompanied by irrational thoughts such as being convinced that the mouse will eat it or that it will die if a monster attacks it.
What to do if your child suffers from a phobia?
Whether it’s a phobia directed towards an animal, an object, a place or a situation, start by taking your child seriously by showing patience and understanding to help him express his emotions. Talking regarding his fears can help him de-dramatize and rationalize his thoughts.
Do not hesitate to inform those around you or the people who take care of your child, and encourage him to confront very gradually what scares him. You can also rely on relaxation techniques, and of course consult a psychologist or psychiatrist to set up therapy.
Find out more: “My emotions” by Isabelle Filliozat, Virginie Limousin and Éric Veillé.
