Knowing how to put aside their sadness and anger following the separation allows children to better live this period of change. Good communication helps establish rules and expectations for each parent.
Prioritize children’s routine
Separation necessarily brings regarding changes in children’s lives, which is why they need to cling to a reassuring routine that brings them stability. The ex-spouses therefore have every interest in agreeing on habits, preferably similar between the two households, by communicating regularly.
How to communicate well with your ex?
Different means are possible, this can be for example at the time of the change of custody in person or on the telephone, or by means of a written medium such as a notebook, emails or messages.
To communicate well, it is important to know how to remain attentive and respectful to avoid attacks. Be sure to speak clearly regarding the situation in the present and not the past.
Always check that the other parent understands to avoid misunderstandings, and control your emotions as much as possible even if you disagree. Finally, beware of the words reported by your child and always favor direct communication when possible, this will prevent your children from feeling that they have to take the side of one of their parents.
Find out more: “Liaison book for separated parents” by Ludovic KARI.