Mr. Hiroyuki, who is currently making a big break in Japan.
His masterpiece “1% effort』, Deeply digs into the” root of thinking “and seriously talks regarding the origin of thinking. In this article, he asked Hiroyuki more interesting questions. (Composition: Ken Taneoka)
The word “for children”
What exactly should parents be careful regarding?
The world is full of the words “for children.” It doesn’t hurt anyone and it sounds natural.
However, there may be some lies. Basically, everyone lives “for themselves.” But when you grow up and become a parent, you are no longer allowed to say it. I don’t see many people who can say “I’m more important than my child”.
However, I think that it is “to make myself happy” by pretending to be thinking for the sake of the child. Taking an examination for a child and improving sports and piano through lessons can fulfill the wishes of parents and make them happy. It may be overkill and there may be an aspect of using children for self-actualization.
A way of life that doesn’t lie
It’s a little arrogant for parents to say, “I want to put up with what I want to do, but give priority to my children.”
It’s fine if you think regarding it in your heart, but it’s the worst if you say it. From a child’s point of view, “I don’t know.”
Children can learn by showing their parents doing what they want to do, rather than living by putting themselves off. I think it’s a bit wrong to force a child to read or study, saying, “Thinking for you …”, even though I never read or study.
If reading is important, parents can read their favorite books on their own. And children have no choice but to wait to see and learn from themselves.
If you tell a lie Children are especially sensitive. I sense that this is hypocrisy.
Think “for yourself”
So what parents should do is think regarding themselves and act accordingly. Don’t force your child to do anything.
When a person sacrifices himself, one day he will get in the way of the other person. I start thinking, “I’m so patient!”
But it doesn’t matter to children and others. As a parent, I think it’s a very clumsy feature.
So let’s put ourselves first. Of course, it doesn’t bother children. However, it is also necessary to make the child feel patience and loneliness to some extent by being assigned to work alone or attending school children.
I think it’s better to think too much regarding your child and sacrifice yourself so that you don’t end up with “What was my life …”.
Real name: Hiroyuki Nishimura
Born in Kanagawa prefecture in 1976. He moved to Tokyo and went on to Chuo University. While he was in school, he studied abroad in Arkansas, USA. In 1999, he opened an anonymous bulletin board “2channel” on the Internet and became an administrator. In 2005, he became the director and manager of Niwango Co., Ltd. and started “Nico Nico Douga”. In 2009 he announced the transfer of “2channel”. In 2015, he became the administrator of the largest anonymous bulletin board “4chan” in the English-speaking world. In 2019, “Penguins Village” will be released. In his book, the best-selling book, which has surpassed 440,000 copies,1% effort](Diamond).
