2023-09-04 11:39:00
My husband’s parents are both highlanders. Because they were busy doing business since they were young, following giving birth to my husband, they planned to build an economy. When the family’s economy was well off and the son was older, they let go to get pregnant for the second time, but had problems since then.
Listening to the mother-in-law recounted, many times grandparents took each other to the doctor because they wanted to have more children for fun and joy at home but might not get pregnant. The doctor also mightn’t find the reason why, so they just let it go, it’s fine to be pregnant but it’s okay if it’s not.
After having a grandchild, the parents-in-law’s intention to have more children was completely extinguished. (Illustration)
After the son got married and had a grandchild, the parents-in-law’s intention to have more children was completely extinguished. Loving their children and taking care of them, they often come to Hanoi to visit. Once a month, my husband’s parents came down to visit my grandson.
Last time my husband went to Saigon on a business trip for 3 months, so I asked my mother-in-law to come down to help take care of my grandson as well as take him to class. When the children asked, she was of course very happy to help.
Because this year is only 52 years old, my mother-in-law is still quite young and agile. Every day, when I give my children to my mother-in-law to take care of, I go to work with peace of mind. She took me and then went home to eat and sleep. The house is always clean and tidy. When I got home from work, I was cooked by my grandmother for dinner with all the delicious dishes.
Having been a mother-in-law for 5 years, the mother and daughter have never collided or had any conflicts. She is also very psychological, loves her daughter-in-law like a son. During these days, she also confided to her daughter-in-law who had lost her period for nearly a year. I encouraged my mother-in-law to go to the doctor, but she said it was okay, it was a sign of perimenopause, which everyone has to go through in life. Listening to her mother-in-law said it was reasonable, so I did not urge her to go to the doctor anymore, just bought a lot of menopausal hormone supplements for her mother-in-law to drink.
However, in the middle of the night before, when I was holding my baby sleeping in my room, I heard the pounding on the door of my mother-in-law. She has been here for a month and has never seen her knock on the door like that. Afraid that she would be in trouble, I quickly opened the door and saw that my mother-in-law was very frightened. Seeing her daughter-in-law, she pointed to her belly and said:
“Look, why is my belly moving?”
Indeed, looking at my grandmother’s belly, I also saw that it was not the mother-in-law that felt that way, but it was really moving, and it was also cluttered as if she was pregnant and the fetus was moving inside. Panicked, I had to reassure her and then the next morning rushed to the doctor.
When I went to the doctor, the doctor immediately discovered that she was pregnant naturally at 22 weeks. When I found out that I was pregnant, my mother-in-law changed from surprise to confusion, anxiety and shame. She kept struggling because she was pregnant at an old age and had a 4-year-old grandchild.
However, when I performed a morphological ultrasound for the fetus, the ultrasound results were completely normal, so I called my father-in-law and my grandparents following 1 hour of discussion and decided to keep the pregnancy. Of course, because of the pregnancy at an older age, in the months following the pregnancy, we always take our mother-in-law to regular prenatal check-ups and follow the doctor’s notes.
The mother-in-law suddenly discovered that she was pregnant naturally following many years of waiting. (Illustration)
Currently, my mother-in-law is in the last weeks of pregnancy and is closely monitored by an obstetrician. The doctor also said that it would be best to evaluate her to see if she might give birth vaginally, and if she might not give birth vaginally, she would switch to a cesarean section.
My father and the whole family were worried that she was old, afraid of giving birth, so she wanted to ask the doctor for a cesarean section, but the doctor did not listen and told her to consider it. I don’t know if an elderly pregnant mother like my mother-in-law has given birth, is it better to give birth naturally or by caesarean section?
Should pregnant women over 50 years old give birth naturally or by caesarean section?
Currently, many pregnant women in general and older pregnant women wonder if cesarean delivery will be better than vaginal birth. In fact, according to obstetricians and gynecologists, pregnant women and their families should not decide for themselves whether to have a cesarean section or a vaginal birth, but need specific instructions from specialists – an obstetrician-gynecologist.
It is necessary to reaffirm once once more that vaginal birth is the best, only cesarean delivery when labor is difficult, affecting the health of the mother and the fetus.
The cases of easy vaginal delivery should not be cesarean section and conversely, the cases that require caesarean section should not attempt to have a normal delivery. In general, before a labor with difficult labor factors, the obstetrician will intervene and adjust to convert a difficult birth into a normal one. If it cannot be adjusted, it is necessary to switch to cesarean section at the right time to ensure the safety of both mother and fetus.
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