So far, almost a year has passed, remembering last year’s New Year but can’t help but feel emotional. I have been married for 9 years and have never had a chance to celebrate Tet with my mother-in-law. Although my husband’s family is in the countryside, not far from the city, I am inherently afraid of the scene of the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law like many old rumors. Just thinking regarding the scene of the mother-in-law being harsh, mocking, torturing the bride like in the movies, I get goosebumps.
My father-in-law unfortunately passed away early, my mother-in-law lived in the countryside with her youngest sister-in-law. Although every New Year, my wife and children arrange to go back to their hometown to celebrate Tet, but it is only at night that they return to the city. Also because my husband and I have many things to do during Tet, we still have to go to diplomacy and be grateful to many places, so we have never had the opportunity to celebrate Tet in my husband’s hometown in the true sense of the word.
Last year, following convincing me and my mother, my husband took my mother-in-law to the city to celebrate Tet. Honestly, at that time I was both happy and worried, if something incompatible happened, it would make the New Year unhappy, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law was easily cracked and embarrassed with friends in the village. So I found a way to “cope”, tried to endure everything through the three days of Tet and then my mother-in-law returned to her hometown.
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Unexpectedly, my husband was happy to pick up my mother a few days earlier, making me worry too. My mother-in-law stayed for the whole week, it’s not a small thing, if I make a mistake, it’s very tiring… My husband is very busy on New Year’s Eve days, I have to take care of his mother-in-law. Ignoring the initial obstacles and worries, I skillfully and sincerely invited my mother-in-law to go shopping for Tet, go out on the street. My mother-in-law is very happy and proud to have a beautiful daughter-in-law, good at buying and selling, prioritizing everything she buys, her husband and children.
I took my mother-in-law to fashion stores, bought her some suitable clothes for Tet, my mother-in-law was very happy to buy such satisfactory clothes. Taking my mother-in-law to buy flowers, fruits, and confectionery for Tet, I also took her to delicious restaurants and specialties of the city for her to experience and enjoy. She loves to eat traditional food in the city such as bun cha, pho…
Wherever I take my mother-in-law, I don’t forget to take pictures, have the opportunity to “live virtual” and post it on personal pages, family groups. Everyone compliments that her mother-in-law is still much younger than her age, being with her daughter-in-law in the city, but still getting along well… I showed her messages and comments, she was very happy because she received a lot of attention and inquiries. of my friends, my daughter-in-law’s colleagues, and my husband’s next of kin.
My mother-in-law is also very open with her daughter-in-law, she shares many stories of the past to encourage and encourage the children to love and cherish their family. She also taught me many things in the traditional rituals and customs of Tet. How to properly display the five-fruit tray, how to choose fruits, fish meat and make incense-burning rice trays according to traditional customs…
The first time I celebrated Tet with my mother-in-law, I felt very guilty and loved her very much. For a long time, because of fear, because of busyness, I did not fulfill the duty of the daughter-in-law. Thinking back to last year’s Tet holiday, my heart is full of emotions, so this year, my husband and I arranged a time to go home to celebrate Tet with my mother-in-law for all 3 days of Tet. I am no longer afraid of anything, I will take care of and love my mother-in-law and celebrate with her a warm and friendly New Year.
