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First step: I am the cause of my celibacy
Ho’oponopono assumes that single people are single because of them. To protect yourself, to feel better… For many reasons, then. To achieve this, you have to practice the exercise of “I don’t have”…
List the things you didn’t do in your last relationship to make it last. “I didn’t beg my ex to stay.” “I did not accept that he cheated on me”. And turn them into positive affirmations: “I kept my dignity”. “I respected my values”. Ego boost assured.
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Step Two: Don’t Blame Others
Being single would therefore be a choice, due to ourselves. To stop accusing others, it goes through the exercise of the circle! We trace with the compass, on a white sheet, a circle of regarding fifteen centimeters in diameter. We color the circle, which symbolizes us, and mark the center with a red dot. This center represents our strongest values, which is essential for us. Then every day, for 5 to 10 minutes, we fix this point and focus our attention on it, breathing calmly. Each time the eyes leave the circle or the thoughts flow, we practice bringing the gaze and attention back to the center.
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Third step: receive an apology
Your previous relationship was a failure. But it wasn’t all your doing. And you have some things between the throat. You deserve to receive an apology.
And since one is never better served than by oneself, you are going to do them yourself with the exercise of the letter. Write a letter on which you write what you would have liked your ex to tell you. Then reread it every night for a week.
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Fourth step: forgive yourself for your mistakes
Sometimes the person you want the most is yourself. So we do the aumakua exo to forgive ourselves. We separate a sheet into two columns, and we write a quality on the left, and a defect on the right. Then we cut out the right part, and while mentally asking for forgiveness, we burn the sheet and place the ashes outside, in a place that inspires us.
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Fifth step: become positive once more
Sometimes we are trapped in a circle of negativity. We break the routine with a new way of seeing life: positive! And for that, we take the time every day to show gratitude for what we have. Thanks for that empty seat on the subway. Thank you for her great friends, thank you for this good sandwich from the boulang ‘. THANKS !
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Sixth step: love yourself!
After saying thank you to life and what surrounds us, it’s time to do the same with yourself. As soon as you can, thank yourself and your body. Learn how to love it and make it a true ally.
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Seventh step: determine your desires
But basically? What do you really want? Haven’t you always forced yourself to fit into a mould, pushed by the pressure of society, of your family? Now is the time to take stock. Common life, marriage, child… It’s up to you to finally know what you really want.
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Eighth step: project yourself
How do you see the man or the woman of your life? How do you want to feel around her?
Close your eyes and imagine what the ideal relationship would be like, the feelings you want to have, and project yourself into this lifetime.
