2023-10-05 18:45:00
Alcohol and sex, what to think regarding sexuality?
Taking alcohol occasionally and in doses is not a problem in itself. The real question to ask yourself is: do I need to drink alcohol to interact with others or have sex? Because in this case, a more serious underlying problem may be hiding (anxiety, alcoholism, etc.)” warns Tristan Jeangene Vilmer, sexologist.
How can we explain that alcohol is so often associated with sexuality?
Watching films with couples drinking a glass of champagne or a glass of wine and then making love transmits an erotic image of alcohol but this is only cultural. It’s just conditioning, we might imagine a world where apple juice has the same glamorous effect” notes Tristan Jeangene Vilmer.
Alcohol as a sedative or stimulant? What is it really ?
“Neither one nor the other” assures the sexologist. On the other hand, it is true that alcohol has an impact on our sex life in the sense that it removes certain inhibiting obstacles (fear, lack of self-confidence, anxiety, traumatic event, shyness, etc.). “Basically: I don’t get more excited with alcohol, but I stop myself less from doing things that I don’t dare to do on an empty stomach. So the important thing is to ask yourself: why do I stop myself from doing certain things when I’m sober? Do I really need a palliative (alcohol, drugs, joint, medication, etc.) to take action? » asks Tristan Jeangene Vilmer. This relationship is indeed questioning and should encourage people in this situation to seek advice from a psychologist or sexologist to talk regarding it.
What alcohol increases libido (sexual desire)?
None. Until now, science has never provided proof that any alcohol can increase libido and more precisely “sexual desire”. “It would be like saying that eating or drinking a certain ingredient will guarantee good health, it is much more complex: several factors must be taken into account (life context, confidence in oneself and in others; physical and mental state, level of stress and fatigue….). Libido is also a complex phenomenon which is not just down to one ingredient” continues the sexologist.
Erectile dysfunction and alcohol consumption, in the short, medium and long term, what is the link in men? (testosterone, libido disorder, ejaculation problem, etc.)
“Consumption of alcohol in large doses and on a regular basis can indeed play a role harmful role on the production of male hormones (testosterone, etc.) but not only that,” explains the sexologist. He specifies: “Alcohol can also influence the fluidity of the blood, on the libido….with the consequences: lack of sensations because a person under the effects of alcohol is less in his body and therefore in his feelings”. Difficulty having and/or maintaining a satisfactory erection (sexual asthenia, frigidity, etc.) as well as fertility disorders are other aspects linked to sexuality while taking alcohol. Not to mention the phenomenon of alcohol addiction, with the associated mental and physical health risks…
Alcoholism and sexuality (loss of libido) in women, what is the link?
With a few nuances, the link between sex and alcohol is roughly the same as for men. “Women will, for example, have more difficulty relaxing their perineum, may have libido problems (vaginal dryness) or even orgasm since the nervous system works in slow motion” illustrates the sexologist.
How to recover your libido when you have an alcoholism problem?
“It’s a trick question, because the problem is not really the libido but rather the addiction to alcohol and it is as a priority that the latter must be resolved with the support of health professionals (psychologist, doctor specializing in addictions, etc.)” explains the man who is also a hypnosis practitioner. Once this has been resolved, consultations with a sexologist can be considered in order to understand sexuality differently and give yourself the keys to discovering it gently.
In conclusion : alcohol and sexuality yes, provided you do not abuse it and maintain enthusiastic consent at all costs to ensure that you really want to have sex at that moment and that your partner does too. “If one of the two is drunk, then sex should not take place because there cannot be consent when one is in an altered state of consciousness” indicates Tristan Jeangene Vilmer, sexologist and hypnosis practitioner. And it would be better to stick to it because things can quickly go wrong. And as the government website points out (source 1): “the fact, for the author, of being under the influence of drugs or alcohol is not a mitigating circumstance but an aggravating circumstance ».
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