Now that I think regarding it, I have been betrayed by my husband for 2 years. It wasn’t fair to me, but the betrayal also helped me understand two truths and taught me how to live a happier life.
In the 3rd year following marriage, I found out that my husband betrayed me. But for the sake of my children, for this house, I try to find ways to make my husband change, towards the family. It was like that for a while, I discovered that except for myself a lot more emaciated, my work and life were affected, he didn’t change at all, still continued to go back and forth with his mistress outside. Finally, unable to take it anymore, I decided to divorce to get a new life.
Now my life is happier and more comfortable than before. I have more time for myself, I like to do whatever I want, enjoy life comfortably instead of chasing someone whose heart doesn’t belong to me like before.
Now that I think regarding it, I have been betrayed by my husband for 2 years. It wasn’t fair to me, but the betrayal also helped me understand two truths and taught me how to live a happier life.
1. If you want to be happy, it’s not enough to love someone wholeheartedly, it’s even more important for that person to care regarding you
When I first learned of my husband’s betrayal, I was in great pain, always asking myself: “Why do I love him with all my heart, but he treats me like that?”, “What did I do wrong, What is missing that he betrayed me to go to another woman?”.
These questions kept circling in my head day by day. I always try to manage the housework well, take care of my husband more carefully so that he knows how good I am, how much I love him, from which I hope his heart will turn to the family. But I was wrong, that only hurt me more. I gradually lost myself, and he thought that what I did was a duty, a responsibility, a natural thing.
After I calmed down, I finally understood that in order for a love to last, it needs to be nurtured by two people. Don’t just love and treat your other half well, it’s more important to let him know how to love and appreciate you.
2. Only when you know how to love and care for yourself can you have a happy starting point
I used to consider my husband to be all happiness, focusing my energies on serving him. Every day when I come home from work, I quickly change my clothes and do housework. After cooking, washing dishes, washing clothes, cleaning the house, playing with children. It was not until 11 o’clock at night that I was able to lie back, ending a busy day.
Women should learn to love themselves first, if only I understood it sooner. (Illustration)
As for her husband, he came home from work just to take a bath, eat and rest. I don’t have the heart to let him work hard, so I carry all the housework, even thinking that any family is like that, as long as the family is warm, I’m fine a little bit. When my husband betrayed me, I suddenly realized how stupid I was.
I became more and more emaciated, withered, less beautiful, and my husband became younger and more beautiful and stylish. If only I cared more regarding myself, always had a direction to live my own life instead of revolving around my husband, maybe I would have a happy starting point. My life will be richer, have more of my own, and perhaps when he betrayed me, I wouldn’t be in so much pain.
Finally, I want to send a message to the sisters that there is no such thing as a painless awakening, especially for someone who sacrifices everything for her husband and family. But if your husband does not know how to regret and correct his mistakes, do not try to hold on to that sentiment, otherwise you will suffer even more. Definitely get rid of that pain and do it once more.
