The distribution of household chores is no joke. Coexistence as a couple can be highly healthy, but if we forget to comply with the basic rules, dedication, interest and respect for the other will surely decrease. Complying with this, in addition to being civil, is a sign of commitment.
Regardless of the time we dedicate to housework, if we live with another person it is essential that both parties comply, that everyone has obligations to attend to within the home. This, which at first may not be so simple, is achieved with discipline, care and knowing that the other does not owe us anything, he does not have to do things for us.
What are the benefits of sharing tasks as a couple?
Not delegating all the household action to our partner is a show of respect for the other, a way of showing respect for the person we love. The sense of participation can be used for many things and that is, it has been proven that whoever collaborates with his lover is much happier.
Beyond involving the children in the housework -which will be much easier for couples who have established this discipline between them before- it is essential that we learn to see what the benefits are. Next, so that you are aware, we leave you with some of the most important:
Greater complicity with the partner
Sharing responsibilities means that you assume getting involved in a common project, that you respect and value the time of the other party, seeing that it is up to both of you, that no one has to fully carry the burden of the home. Regardless of the meters that the house has, it is convenient that we get down to work and then enjoy together equally.
Better family climate
Participation at home considerably improves the family climate. By reducing episodes of stress, there are fewer fights and we achieve a sense of equality that allows us to be happy, always in a good mood and enjoy life more both as a couple and alone.
Promotes autonomy
Collaboration at home not only helps us with regard to stability as a couple but also with ourselves. By learning to do things on our own, we gain autonomy and knowledge for any idea that comes to us when the other is not there. Don’t you think something like that is cool?
good distribution of time
When we share responsibilities at home, the organization of time is much better and that is, both people will have leisure options, the ability -and desire- to enjoy what is left of the day. Perfect for continuing to cultivate harmony, it is undoubtedly a guarantee that both parties are learning the value of things.
equality model
The distribution of tasks at home is also useful for combating the idea of gender. Creating a model of real equality, it is essential that the couple does not change their attitude over time and begins to consider that the cleaning and/or maintenance of the house is the responsibility of the woman alone.
How can we make the couple collaborate on household chores?
Collaboration in household chores is a matter of discipline. Although there are many people who do not bring it from home -with regard to housework, especially men- when we go to live with a partner we have to abide by some rules, think of the other as a partner and not as someone that he is obligated to act as a “mother” to us.
Making a list of tasks to accomplish can be a good way to start putting a firm foot in cooperation. The daily calendar, where we must include everything from shopping -to bring, among other things, products that help us- to actions as simple as clearing the table, dates and objectives will have to be met.
If this doesn’t work, before getting angry -no matter how eager we may be- we should think of a new structure or format for the activities to be carried out. Sometimes, it is not a question of carelessness or negligence but of a bad management of what must be done.
A knowing smile -in the event that you are doing the work together- helps the party with less initiative to feel like they are part of the team, someone who matters and who can improve over time. Always taking care of the other, everything that has to do with obligations is easier since the time will come when they are done without feeling them as such.
As we can see, distributing household chores helps both parts of the couple equally and it is precisely for this reason that we must take more care of the details, think regarding the time we have left to share and how well we will be following finishing with the job pending.
Source: by Master Marta Guerri for PsicoActiva.-
