Debate Sparks: Should Marriage Be a Joint Decision or a Surprise Attack?

2023-06-23 12:02:00

International Center / Reported by Ke Meiyi

▲As soon as the woman entered the venue, she learned that her boyfriend had prepared a “surprise wedding”. (Schematic diagram / flipped from Pixabay)

A woman in the United States shared that she thought she was going to attend a luxurious party, and when she dressed up and entered the venue, she was surprised that all her relatives and friends were present. She discussed, as if she was kept in the dark, she had no right to speak regarding such a lifelong event as marriage, and left the meeting angrily.

The woman posted on the American forum Reddit that she and her 32-year-old boyfriend have been dating for five years. Although they have discussed getting married, they have no plans to hold a wedding in the short term. However, just last week, she was looking forward to attending the party. The result As soon as she walked into the hall, she realized that it was a “surprise wedding”. “When I walked into the hall, I was surprised to see all our family, friends and acquaintances gathered together, eagerly waiting,” which made her Feel overwhelmed.

The woman said that although she loved her boyfriend deeply and dreamed of the future of the two of them, without any discussion or consent, he suddenly held this surprise wedding, which made her feel like a breach of trust. So she pulled her boyfriend aside to express her inner thoughts, “I want to have a say in the planning process, participate in decision-making, and have the opportunity to prepare mentally and emotionally for important milestones in our lives.” But her boyfriend felt that It’s all very romantic, and I think she should be moved.

The woman was caught in a difficult decision. In the end, she decided not to continue the surprise wedding, which disappointed and confused the guests. Her boyfriend, family members of both parties and even some friends thought she overreacted and ruined what should have been a beautiful moment.

The woman still loves her boyfriend and wants to marry him, but she believes that “marriage should be a joint decision, with open communication and shared expectations”, while relatives and friends feel that she wasted a perfect wedding “like a jerk “. She had no choice but to ask everyone whether her decision was wrong?

As soon as the post came out, it sparked heated discussions. Many netizens supported the original PO’s views, “I firmly believe that marriage should be a joint decision, open communication and common expectations”, “Marriage is a partnership, not a surprise attack”, ” It’s not romance, it’s control,” “How on earth did your family and friends let this happen?”

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