2023-04-21 13:17:00
What does couple goals mean?
The English expression “couple goals” literally translates to “couple goals”. It’s regarding being a perfectly loving couple in the eyes of others. In the eyes of others because, behind this concept, there is above all a barrier which is that of digital screens.
The Goals couple seeks to put themselves forward on social networks, especially on Instagram, through handpicked photos and/or videos, adds Margaux Terrou, sexologist.
What couple goals are we talking regarding?
The objective of the couple goals: to become the couple that makes everyone dream. For this, the two partners live a fantasy life by staging themselves so as to appear as the perfect duo.
#couplegoals: a well-identifiable style of photos on Instagram
The images found behind the #couplegoals often belong to the dream realm : the couple, with the perfect body, is on vacation on a white sand beach, they dine by candlelight or have a sumptuous breakfast in bed, the woman is in the arms of her lover in the middle of the desert or, the man proposes to marriage in front of a heavenly sunset… Basically, the staging is chiade, very romanticized, and the moment lived seems incredible.
The typical profile of the goals couple
“The couple goal being appeared with the explosion of social networks, we will naturally find people in their thirties, but also younger people who have become accustomed to communicating via the internet and who express themselves easily in English. On the other hand, it will still be quite rare to see couples in their forties even if certain stars of this age group such as Victoria and David Beckham appear under the corresponding hashtag”, nuances the sexologist.
Who says couple goals says heterosexual couple?
“It’s true that a majority of #couplegoals posts come from heterosexual couples, but there are also homosexuals,” says Margaux Terrou.
How do I know if my partner and I are a goal couple?
If you live together, have a healthy relationship full of love and manage to overcoming marital crises, then you are definitely a couple goals! “However, we must relativize with this notion. From a “relational” point of view, it is not an ideal in the sense that Setting goals can quickly become restrictive and pressurizing. I would rather advise couples to seek to be the couple who takes care of their relationship, rather than the one who aims for perfection goals counted by a number of views, “says the sexologist.
How to become a couple goals?
As mentioned above, “the objective should not so much be to become a goal couple, but rather to form a couple in love and where the partners respect each other while respecting their individual space”, specifies Margaux Terrou.
What are the disadvantages of couples goals?
The real why
“It may be interesting to ask what one is trying to show by posting a series of photos, of oneself with one’s partner. If it is published in a “frantic” way, would it not fulfill something narcissistic to generate envy, even jealousy in others? Is that really sincere love?”
The sexologist continues: “Perhaps these people need to reassure themselves by staging their intimacy. This lack of spontaneity and readable naturalness through the dramatization of the photos in any case reflects a certain lack of confidence among some who use their couple a bit like a security blanket. »
Distorted goals?
“Just the phrase ‘couple goals’ is weird. As if a couple had to resolve to achieve perfection… Through publications on social networks, wouldn’t there rather be the objective of being seen, seen and seen once more, rather than living one’s relationship from interior? The couple becomes nothing more than a trophy to display in public”, adds Margaux Terrou. It is enough to follow a few accounts over time to realize that over time, some no longer publish. Maybe they got divorced or changed priorities?
A story of money
Seeing the context in which the photos are often taken (luxury hotels, “trendy” restaurants, etc.), one might wonder if the hashtag #CoupleGoals is not a consumerist phenomenon. Online sales sites have also specialized in the subject by selling, for example, pajamas and matching jewelry.
A sometimes macho vision
Through the #couplegolas, we can identify a majority of codes related to the heterosexual couple with certain macho connotations. For example: a photo where the man is driving his car (preferably luxury) and puts his hand on his partner’s thigh.
Duality of worlds
“By dint of following this kind of Instagram accounts, some people can mistake virtuality for reality. But let’s remember that what works on Instagram meets the standards of social networks (number of views, brands, places, etc.) but not those of Iin real life“, insists the sexologist. “The risk is then to follow an ideal which is not personal, but that of others and to concentrate more on having than on being. Proof of this is the resurgence of cases of burnout among young parents who follow this type of account, and start to blame who they are or what they do.
In fineas the saying goes… “Wouldn’t it be better live hidden to live happily » ?
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