SHOCK, sadness, even anger must be our expressions when we find out that our own child is the perpetrator of bullying. However, one important thing to remember, basically the perpetrator acts like that for a number of reasons.
Children who bully are mostly just trying to fit in, need attention, and find out how to deal with complicated emotions. In some cases, bullies are victims or witnesses of violence at home or in the environment. Here are some steps that must be taken to help children stop bullying, as reported by the Unicef Indonesia website;
1. Communication
Understanding why a child is bullying can help parents stop it. Do they feel unsafe at school? Are they fighting with friends or siblings?
If children have difficulty explaining their behavior, parents can take steps to consult a mental health professional.
2. Good Problem Solving
Parents and children can brainstorm together about what might happen to victims of bullying. Encourage children to put themselves in other people’s shoes by imagining the experiences of the person being bullied.
3. Reflect on Yourself
Children who bully often imitate what they see at home. Do they often witness physically or emotionally harmful behavior from their parents, family members or caregivers? Take a look at yourself as a parent and think about how you treat your child.
4. Make Amends
If you know that your child has been bullying, it is important to provide appropriate and non-violent consequences.
For example, you can limit their activities, especially those that encourage bullying (hanging out with gang friends, playing social media or online). Encourage your child to apologize to their friends and find ways to be more positive in the future. (M-3)
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