Challenging Family Relationships: Understanding Ingratitude and Disinheritance

2023-09-06 00:44:56

Josée’s letter made me think, she who describes the indifferent behavior towards her of her two daughters, aged 33 and 35, the youngest of whom is pregnant with her second child while she was unaware of the existence of the first. This led her to redo her will and to deprive her daughters of what she wanted to bequeath to them to promote two humanitarian works.

Far be it from me to want to judge her for having made this decision, because I do not consider that a parent must necessarily favor his children in his will. I also consider that the ingratitude of his daughters exceeds the imaginable. It is also surprising to note that she has not heard from her youngest for three years.

In my opinion, this scenario is not the sign of a normal family. I suspect a latent problem that is not expressed. I also sometimes find that my children are not grateful for all that has been done for them, and the idea of ​​disinheriting them sometimes crosses my mind. But quickly I change my mind, wondering if I would be happier taking revenge in this way?

My children, I love them from the bottom of my heart, and I think they love me too. When I reason with myself, I am satisfied with the communications we have, and I take into account what they tell me when I complain: “Mom, don’t always wait for us, you too can call us!” Even if to this I often reply “But I don’t want to bother you with my calls”, I know very well that they are right. There is also a thought, read recently, that makes me think: “If you give hoping for a return, you are not giving, but rather business. »

Michelle

It is indeed useful to distinguish between our emotional desires and the ability of our loved ones to respond to them. Sometimes you have to do violence to yourself by becoming more reasonable. Especially when dealing with loved ones who are less cuddle-prone and perhaps more independent.

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