2023-06-11 04:01:00
Although it is a word that is more questioned every day, it is difficult to get out of it. Assessment. Here is one of the definitions: “Attribution or determination of the value of something or someone.” At first glance it sounds strong.
How can you value someone? We can agree that it is subjective. However, when thinking regarding learning processes, we might consider them necessary.
So I think regarding where this confusion that is generated between what is necessary and what is unpleasant lies. Once once more my mind and reflection leads me to the how and not the what.
Over time I discover that evaluation is present at every moment. It is not necessary to be going through formal training processes. In an attempt to be didactic, I comment that it is present in me and also in each one of those who surround me. Consciously or not.
We observe and place negative or positive attributes on almost everything. The way of dressing, own or others. How he behaves, talks, laughs, teaches, learns, how he relates to others, and countless etcetera.
Some time ago I started to make a game with myself (please don’t stop reading, I didn’t go crazy. Playing is part of life). It is regarding listening in my verbalizations how many times I say “bad” or “good”. The rule is just to listen to me, without judging me. It can be before any instance or situation. I was surprised and surprised. There are many more than I imagined and of course, I would like. (don’t judge me I think it’s the hardest part)
I say this not only to assess a situation, it is part of my usual vocabulary for many things.
On the other hand, I notice that I need a return to a daily evaluation: “They like the food”?
While it is true that as the years go by I need less evaluative feedback, trusting my process, I welcome constructive criticism that helps me question an action or thought. The gaze of the other offers me the possibility of growing. Of course, this implies on my part an exercise in listening, tolerating frustration and the awareness that I can take the opinion of the other and add it to my own. When that happens, I appreciate that look that made it possible, that opened the door for me to get frustrated.
I write it down and think regarding all the exercise it took me to write those words. Because now I can recognize when the criticism is with affection and when it is not. Today a smile arouses me, since the years taught me to detect the difference. Long ago I was bitter and believed that I might never improve.
The difference existed in how the errors or alleged errors marked me.
That is the way that I try every day to incorporate into my life and towards others. Teaching and sharing showing the strengths of others and the processes achieved since we are used to relying on mistakes.
If we all have different fingerprints, it is logical to think that we can learn and live in the same way. In a commercial world that needs to be labeled, perhaps the challenge is to humanize ourselves.
Lic. Laura Collavini
Psychopedagogue.
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