Written by Rami Mohi El-Din
Wednesday, July 03, 2024 08:59 PM
Dr. Samar Keshk, a mental health specialist, warned against marrying a stingy person, noting that a stingy individual is stingy in everything, whether it is their emotions, feelings, giving, or commitment.
The mental health specialist explained, during an interview with media figure Marwa Shatla on the “Al-Bayt” program broadcast on the “the peopleToday, Wednesday: “The miser feels a psychological crisis while giving. They fear for their loved ones and love them, but they don’t give to them. If this is a characteristic, then marriage is not advisable, because stinginess is a fundamental trait and will not change.”
She added: “The miser will not change even if they are in love or have problems that need to be solved. They will not change except through a severe nervous shock as a result of their miserliness, but if someone marries a miser, they must ensure they fulfill their basic obligations.”
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The Psychological Impact of Stinginess in Relationships: Expert Insight
Stinginess, a trait often associated with financial matters, can have profound implications for relationships and emotional well-being. Dr. Samar Keshk, a mental health specialist, sheds light on the psychological aspects of stinginess and its impact on romantic partnerships.
Stinginess: A Deeper Look
Contrary to common belief, stinginess extends beyond mere monetary issues. Dr. Keshk emphasizes that stingy individuals exhibit a pattern of withholding across various aspects of life, including:
- Emotions: Difficulty expressing affection, empathy, and vulnerability.
- Feelings: Holding back genuine emotions, leading to emotional distance.
- Giving: Reluctance to share resources, time, or support.
- Commitment: Hesitation to fully invest in relationships and responsibilities.
This pervasive stinginess stems from underlying psychological concerns like:
- Fear of Loss: A constant anxiety about losing resources, including emotional ones.
- Control Issues: Attempting to maintain power and dominance through withholding.
- Low Self-Worth: Believing they are not deserving of reciprocation or giving.
The Challenges of Loving a Stingy Partner
Marrying a stingy person can lead to a multitude of relationship challenges, including:
- Emotional Neglect: The stingy partner may struggle to provide emotional support and reassurance, leaving their partner feeling emotionally starved.
- Financial Strain: Constant battles over finances can create resentment and erode trust.
- Lack of Intimacy: Stinginess often manifests as withholding affection, physical touch, and quality time, hindering intimacy.
- Feeling Unloved and Unvalued: The stingy partner’s unwillingness to give can make their partner feel undervalued and unloved.
Can a Stingy Person Change?
While change is possible, it is often difficult for stingy individuals to alter deeply ingrained patterns. Dr. Keshk suggests that significant change may require:
- Self-Awareness: Acknowledging the stinginess and its negative impacts.
- Professional Help: Seeking therapy to address underlying psychological issues.
- Motivational Shift: Recognizing the benefits of giving and building healthy relationships.
However, Dr. Keshk cautions that stinginess is often an ingrained personality trait, making significant changes less likely without substantial intervention.
Navigating the Dilemma
When faced with a stingy partner, here are some considerations:
- Open Communication: Expressing concerns and needs in a constructive manner.
- Setting Boundaries: Defining clear expectations regarding financial matters and emotional support.
- Seeking Couple’s Therapy: Addressing relationship issues with the support of a professional.
- Self-Care: Prioritizing personal well-being and seeking support from friends and family.
Ultimately, the decision to remain in a relationship with a stingy partner is a personal one, weighing the potential for change against the ongoing challenges.
The Takeaway
Stinginess is a complex issue with deep-rooted psychological origins. While it can be challenging to navigate, open communication, setting boundaries, and seeking professional help can provide avenues for potential change.
Remember, building healthy relationships requires mutual giving, emotional generosity, and a willingness to invest in each other.