Falling in love is beautiful, but loving the right person is even better! A person who will support us and who will be by our side for better and for worse. This elderly couple has inspired not only their baby girl Emily, but also several internet users. Their story left no one indifferent.
A sixty year old love story
Emily Hime was lucky enough to witness the unconditional love between her grandparents. A couple who lived a love story of 60 years! Emily’s last few months at the bedside of her dying grandmother were both painful, but she got to see up close the love her grandfather still has for her grandmother, even following 60 years of marriage.
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Emily’s grandparents hugging on the hospital bed. Source: spm
The two lovebirds have always been fusional. Her grandmother was always there for her beloved. She did everything for him, to the point that Emily’s family always teased the grandfather that he would never get by without his life partner. But the roles were reversed, during the last months when Emily’s grandmother was sick. Her husband took care of her. He took great care of her. It was then that Emily realized that the most romantic love story is that of her grandparents growing old together. The two lovers met at a cycling club in England when they were 20 years old. An unexpected meeting that gave way to a romantic story full of passion, tenderness and complicity.
Hard times at the hospice
The last months of Emily’s grandmother’s life were hard on everyone. The 6 cycles of chemotherapy she was undergoing were exhausting her. Her husband made sure to be there for her as much as he might. He did the laundry, and cooked for her. But the most important thing was that he attended all the doctor’s appointments, and never left his hand. Also, he never left his wife home alone. If he had to be away, he made sure there was someone to replace him, because he never wanted to leave his ailing wife alone, even for a few minutes.
Emily was not the only witness to this unconditional love. Even the hospital staff appreciated this couple, and the devotion that the grandfather had for his wife. Despite the strokes that the grandmother suffered, and despite her feverish body, her husband never stopped telling her how beautiful she is in his eyes. His eyes, full of tenderness and love, clouded over at the thought that his wife might be in pain or feel bad. He was aware of the difficult times his wife was going through, and wanted to take advantage of every moment with her, whether in the hospital or in the hospice.
The grandfather always asked Emily to help him decorate the house, because he thought his wife would be back soon. But that day never came. “Oh, you are so precious, good night my darling”. Those were the last words Emily’s grandfather spoke to his wife. The weakened grandmother passed away, leaving a void in her husband’s heart.
This story touched more than one. Emily has strived to capture the final moments of this romantic story. Photos of his grandparents lying on the hospice bed, entwined, have gone around the web. They were even posted on the hospice’s facebook page, Chathan-Kent Hospice, as they represent “a special message of love”.
The story of this elderly couple deserves to be told and to serve as an example for people who no longer value living together. When we get married, we promise to love each other for better or for worse…or even to love each other, until death do us part. But how many manage to keep their promise? For Emily, looking closely at how her grandfather loved her grandmother is a good reminder of the importance of choosing your partner well.
What are the keys to a lasting and successful marriage?
A couple holding hands. Source: spm
In an article for Global News, Marissa Nelson, a licensed marriage and family therapist, offers 8 principles for a successful marriage. We will name a few.
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Personal development
The energy of the couple depends on the energy of both partners. If one of the two is unhappy because of an aspect of their life, such as work, this energy is likely to impact the relationship. The dissatisfied person can be very demanding and often ask their partner to meet their needs that they cannot satisfy because they are not fulfilled in their life, such as the need for recognition.
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regularity
Feeling secure in a relationship is important. This is what guarantees its durability. We need at times to be reassured, and to feel that we can count on our partner. It is true that this cannot happen on a daily basis, because our partner can also go through difficult times. But we need to feel that there is a reciprocity in the relationship.
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A benevolent gaze
Trust is an important principle in a relationship. We must have confidence in our partner, and be reassured that he does not intentionally mean us harm. In case of conflict or disagreement, give him the benefit of the doubt. In situations where we feel upset, we have the right to be affected by what happened, but that does not mean that we should immediately doubt our partner, and show bad faith.
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Effective communication
Communication is essential in the couple, provided it is done well. If you’re the talking type, be a good listener when communicating with your partner to give them a chance to speak up too. Communication strengthens ties, and avoids problems caused by things left unsaid.
The touching story of this old couple left no one indifferent. It allows us to realize that love stories that last a lifetime do exist.
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