“I’m so happy for the women’s shelter’s help”
Published 2024-09-24 20.24
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Chef Louise Johansson opens up in the Chefs’ fight about her ex-boyfriend’s mental abuse.
– He needed to be mean to me for me to understand something, he said.
After the first episode’s pair competitions with potato towers and decorated egg halves, it’s time for a barbecue competition and quiz in part two of “The Chefs’ Battle” 2024. But also the customary dinner prepared by one of the competing chefs. This time it is Louise Johansson’s should.
During dinner, the chef asks Jonas Lagerström if she had always been a calm and safe person, but the answer he gets probably none of the participants would have expected.
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Louise says that she has generally always been a calm person, but that there was a time when she lost her sense of security. Something she hasn’t talked about much.
– It started when I met a guy, we had incredible fun and he was generous and charming. I fell in love immediately, says Louise in the program.
Didn’t get to call the parents
But it soon turned out that the new boyfriend was anything but charming. He became more and more controlling and what she had to endure was above all psychological violence.
– It was terrible. The psychological violence does a lot to you and it leaves wounds in the soul.
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Louise was not allowed to call her parents when she wanted, he made her change her clothes, he took her money and destroyed her furniture. It got worse and worse. She was extremely tired, exhausted, scared and had anxiety.
– I lost confidence in myself. It is almost indescribable how bad I felt during this time. Many wonder why you don’t leave such a person, but I was so terribly broken.
Was brainwashed
Louise says she got double messages with a lot of love mixed in with the fact that she was completely useless. She describes it as being brainwashed. In the end, she still managed to leave the relationship. Louise was at home with her parents where she felt safe but at the same time received around 50 text messages from her then boyfriend.
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– He wrote, among other things, that if I am to understand something, he needs to be mean to me. Then I felt that now is enough. Now it’s over and I’m so damn glad I got help and support from a women’s shelter
Tea Malmgård points out how brave Louise is who dares to tell.
– Today I feel well. I am calm and I love to live.
Louise hopes that women who find themselves in the situation she was in can get help and support to somehow dare to leave.
FACT
WOMAN: Here you can get help and support
Are you or someone close to you exposed to violence in a close relationship? Here is a selection of places you can turn to for help and support.
Important: Always call 112 in case of emergency. You can also reach the social service or the social emergency service in your municipality via the emergency number.
- The women’s peace line (020-50 50 50, 24 hours a day)
A national helpline for those who have been exposed to physical, psychological and sexual violence. Relatives and friends are also welcome to call. - All women’s house (08-644 09 20, Mon–Fri 9am–5pm)
Offers temporary sheltered housing for people who have been victims of intimate partner violence and honour-related violence. Accepts women, men, their children and accompanying animals with placement via social services. - Rock
The national organization for women’s shelters and girls’ shelters in Sweden collects shelters throughout Sweden, some of which offer sheltered accommodation. Find an on-call nearest you via Rok’s website. Click on “find an on-call”. - Unizon
Collects over 130 women’s shelters, girls’ shelters and other support activities. On the website there are contact details for emergency services throughout Sweden, some of which offer sheltered accommodation. Click on “find on duty”. - Terrafem
Network for women’s rights against men’s violence. Jourtelefon: 020-52 10 10. Advice in 70 different languages, including legal advice. - The crime victim hotline (116 006, every day from 9 am to 7 pm)
Provides support to criminal suspects, witnesses and relatives. - Qjouren (08-644 20 32)
A women’s shelter for abused women with experiences of abuse and prostitution. - RFSL support reception (020-34 13 16, Thursdays 9am–12pm)
Support for LGBTQI people who have been exposed to abuse, threats and violence. RFSL support reception also runs a sheltered accommodation in the Stockholm area. - Social services
If you want to talk to someone who works at social services, you can call the switchboard in your municipality and ask to be connected to social services. - Bris (Telephone: 116 111, or via chat at bris.se)
All children can get help via Bris, Children’s rights in society. - Priest on duty (112)
Can help with emergency call and crisis support: Call 112 and ask to be connected to the priest on duty. - Ungarelationer.se
A support platform for young people (15–20 year olds) who are exposed to violence in their partner relationships, offers chat every evening at 8–10 pm. - Choose to quit (020-555 666)
Choose to stop is a national telephone line for those who want help to change controlling or violent behaviour. The telephone line is run by the National Board of Health and Welfare in collaboration with Manscentrum Stockholm. - National women’s shelter and support in sign language, NKJT, provides support to the target group of abused deaf, hearing-impaired and deaf-blind girls, women and non-binary and offers support in sign language.
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