2024-01-18 00:47:45
[OSEN=김나연 기자] Baek Il-seop revealed his affectionate feelings for his daughter.
In TV Chosun’s ‘Dad and Me’ broadcast on the 17th, Baek Il-seop was depicted meeting his son-in-law and having a candid conversation.
Baek Il-seop, who announced his divorce at the age of 73 in 2016, was currently living alone. He said, “It’s very comfortable because I live alone,” but he attracted attention by telling the story of how he had been isolated from his daughter for seven years following getting married. He said, “I tried to be a good father at heart, but the surrounding environment and family environment were different. He often had troubles due to his relationship with his wife, and when he went home following drinking, he did nothing but yell. We did not agree with each other. I showed this to my children when they were young. “I think I still had bad feelings toward my father, or rather, disappointment than emotions. I said I was working hard, but now that I think regarding it, I think I was a bad father to my daughter,” he said bitterly.
He continued, “I didn’t contact my daughter for nearly 7 to 8 years, but in 2023, my son-in-law kept calling me and saying, ‘You’re meeting Ji-eun, too.’ I mightn’t answer, but he called me a few times and we met up.” He added, “When I saw him for the first time in 7 years, I was with him because of my grandchildren and had a simple meeting.” We used to say things, but we haven’t had a direct conversation since I was young. I don’t know the direction, because there’s always a veil. I’ve always had a loving heart. I’ve walked a long way in life, and I don’t know how much longer I have left, but my true heart is ours. “I want to tell my daughter. I want to tell her I love her. The process may take a little longer, but I plan to take it step by step. I too will be sweet. Dad and I,” he said, expressing his wish through the program.
Afterwards, Baek Il-seop took his dog to a beauty shop an hour away from his home. It turned out that it was near a noodle restaurant run by his daughter. He said, “I go there on purpose. I come down to my daughter’s noodle shop during my hairdressing and bathing time, look at my daughter and grandchild’s faces, and eat a bowl of noodles. I go there often. On average, I go once every two weeks, and at the most, once every three weeks.”
But my daughter was not in the store. The son-in-law, who appeared on his behalf, said, “After my wife met my father once more, her feelings for him had not completely resolved and she felt a bit uncomfortable, so I think she avoided the place even though she knew my father was coming. It was because the resentment had been accumulated for a long time. “I think the door is only half open. That’s why I came out in his place. I hope that through Dad and I, you will know what the problem is,” he said in an interview.
According to his son-in-law, Baek Il-seop’s daughter was so heartbroken that she said she did not want to see her father once more when she announced her graduation. The son-in-law said, “As this goes on and the children start wondering who their grandfather is, my wife is moving on to the existence of no grandfather. As I watched the process, I thought it might not be delayed any longer, so I contacted my father in 2021.” However, the actual meeting took place in January 2023. Regarding the reason for his late reply, Baek Il-seop said, “I missed you too and was curious. I wanted to come. I knew the store was open. But I was wondering if your mother-in-law was there. We shouldn’t run into each other once more. That’s why I was hesitating.” He said, “Let’s not talk regarding your mother-in-law. “I’m just depressed,” he said.
In response, the son-in-law said, “I also wanted to contact you sooner, but it took a long time for Ji-eun to open her heart. At first, Ji-eun was opposed to contacting her father. I said, ‘Why are you bothering me? It’s been over 7 years now,’ but Si-yeon said, As Lee, Philo, and Sia grew older, we began to wonder why there was no grandfather when we all had grandmothers. Siyeon knew that there was a grandfather. She said to her younger siblings, ‘We also have a grandfather.’ I was the biggest child. “What makes me feel relieved is that I was able to meet him before time elapsed,” he explained.
In particular, Baek Il-seop’s son-in-law went to a bar with Baek Il-seop. He seemed nervous and drank alcohol in succession. “Actually, Ji-eun was at the store earlier and when I told her that her father was coming, she seemed to be feeling uncomfortable and avoided the place,” he said. “He talked regarding that a lot following he got married to me. The father I see on TV is like that.” “He is a national father, but when he came home and there was a loud noise, he was hurt a lot since he was young,” he said.
He said, “I heard that between a mother and daughter, the mother’s pain and sadness are passed on to the daughter. That’s why she said it hurt her ever since she was young.” Baek Il-seop said, “It’s all my fault. I get angry when I go home. We can’t communicate.” So, there is no way. I wanted to get out of the house early, so I always went out. Maybe I’m immature, but I don’t really think regarding it. But with my daughter, I studied so much that I mightn’t sleep because I didn’t know where it went wrong. Where did it go wrong? Where did it go wrong? “Because of things like, ‘It’s okay.’ When I think regarding my relationship with my children later, I was a poor father,” he told his daughter regarding a sad anecdote.
In the meantime, the son-in-law said, “In the past, in the Joseon Dynasty or the Goryeo Dynasty, it was said that a subject would submit an appeal to the king. I am speaking from the point where a subject speaks directly. I think it is wrong for your father to marry alone. He is my father, whom I respect and everyone. “I think mistakes can be made. Did I see it?? I think that my father’s marriage following graduation was the biggest mistake,” he said carefully and directly, drawing attention.
Baek Il-seop reacted sharply, saying, “At what point?” and the son-in-law said, “If they were divorced, wouldn’t they be strangers? But since they got married following graduation, in some ways, they still have a bond as a couple. But due to getting married following graduation, Ji-eun and Ji-eun The whole family is just looking at the two of you. The decision to get married early makes the whole family anxious. From what I can see, my mother is not feeling well these days. She is so sick that she can’t eat food unless someone prepares it for her. He is unwell. Ji-eun visits him every week and takes him to the hospital. But the advice I want to give as a son and as a son-in-law is that you don’t have much time left. You don’t want to live with your mother, and you don’t expect any support. Just do it. I persuaded my mother by saying, “Isn’t it okay to just tell my mother regarding the hard work I’ve had raising my children?”
But Baek Il-seop immediately answered, “I can’t.” The son-in-law said, “Isn’t there something called affection that has lived for over 40 years? Even ugly things are affection, and even good things are affection,” but Baek Il-seop said, “No, I can’t think like that when people have lost their affection.” He added, “It’s been regarding 8 years and now. “I am worse than others. I have now become a stranger. There is no way back. There is no place to return to,” he emphasized. The son-in-law said, “Jieun hasn’t been able to sleep comfortably for a single day since her father announced his retirement. It’s because her heart hurts and is sad,” and “Jieun’s heart has been frozen from then until now. (The relationship between her mother and father) “If it isn’t resolved, Ji-eun’s relationship with her father will always run parallel. Ji-eun also says that the situation with her mother and father is worse than that of Namnam, but she says she can’t talk regarding it with a smile,” he explained the situation.
In response, Baek Il-seop said, “I can’t do that associating myself with my child’s mother. I’ve been married for 40 years, and it’s been almost 50 years. I did it in 1979. I feel most comfortable living alone for 8 years rather than living together for 40 years. I’m back to normal. My weight is back to normal.” “My health has returned to normal, and my disease level has also returned to normal,” he said. “Tell Ji-eun that we met today and talked regarding this, and ask her if she would like to resolve the awkwardness between us so far and have a more comfortable relationship. That’s all I can say. Just let me tie up with the child’s mother.” He drew a line saying, “Mara.”
The son-in-law said, “To Ji-eun, she is a mother,” but Baek Il-seop expressed his regret, saying, “Aren’t mothers important and fathers not?” The son-in-law said, “That’s not true. We all know that Siyeon, Philo, and Sia have a bad relationship with their grandfather and grandmother. Don’t they watch everything on the Internet these days? They can’t tell their grandmother that they met their grandfather. Why are we letting the kids know regarding it?” “Do I have to give it to you?” Baek Il-seop bowed his head and said, “That’s right. It’s my fault. It’s my fault.”
He said, “I’ve lived a lot, haven’t I? I was raised by a different mother and a different father. I didn’t want my children to follow in that footsteps, so I endured it and did it my way. Now that I’m at this age, I’m living with the most peace of mind. I’m not angry. I told the author. Ask once more if you don’t have the courage to leave your mother and talk to your father. You never know. There are parts of the relationship between my daughter and I that might improve by loosening up a bit. Then, you can listen to Ji-eun’s words regarding the relationship with your child’s mother. By all means. “I’m not saying that’s the case, but I can go and research that part then,” he said, appearing more subdued.
The son-in-law said, “I am grateful just for saying that. I was prepared to get a beating from my father. Until my father came to this place, I think my mother still raised more than 50% of Ji-eun well. Please look back once. “I hope you’ll take a look,” he said honestly.
Jeon Hyun-moo, who saw this, asked, “Didn’t your son-in-law have the courage to lead the conversation? What were your honest feelings when you talked?” Baek Il-seop said, “I really tried to hit you by the ear,” but added, “After listening, I was hoping to improve my relationship with my daughter, and I also realized that I don’t like my daughter.” “Where is your father? As time goes by, you and your daughter will become a real father,” he said, expressing his desire to improve their relationship. In response, Lee Seung-yeon expressed her thoughts, saying, “But a daughter cannot accept a father without her mother. That is really difficult. I think it will take time.”
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