2023-12-16 08:14:01
Photo = Getty Image Bank A story was posted saying that while her retired husband suggested that they sell their house and live together in retirement, it was difficult to accept this in a situation where they had to support their children who were preparing for professional exams.
On the 16th, a post was posted on an online community with the title, ‘After retirement, the husband wants to sell his house and rest at home.’
The author said, “My husband and I both got married much later than our peers, so my husband has just turned 60 and I will soon be turning 60,” and added, “My two children are still in college.”
She said, “My husband graduated from a prestigious university, retired from a large company, and worked at a small to medium-sized company through a friend’s network until he reached retirement age. I have been earning regarding 3 million won a month from a job that was recently introduced to me by an acquaintance. My husband is a self-made man, so there was no help from my in-laws. “I had money saved while working at a large company when I got married. Also, the market price for the person who bought it with a little help from my parents has risen significantly. The selling price is over 1.5 billion won,” he said. He added, “I was living in that house, but following sending my children to college, I rented it out, and we are also living in a different neighborhood.”
The author said, “I haven’t saved any money since then, but I spent a lot of money on educating my children, and since my husband retired, I’ve been relying almost entirely on my own earnings to cover living expenses.”
Meanwhile, the author mentioned that her husband recently suggested, ‘Why not sell our house and use the money to live off our retirement?’
In response, the author said, “I was planning to keep it as a last resort and sell it to raise funds when my children get married, so I asked, ‘What are you talking regarding?’ and said absolutely no way. For your information, the house is in joint names.” She added, “Of course, my husband worked hard in his past. “I understand that you want to live a more leisurely life now, but my husband doesn’t want to work and earn earned income, and he just wants to stay at home,” she wrote.
He said, “I don’t have much ability or greed to make a living, but I have pride in being a learned person, so I don’t want to get a job that involves simple labor, which many retired men do.”
The author said, “Both of my children said they would rather prepare for professional exams than to get jobs at private companies, so I don’t think they will become independent until at least their late 20s. Since it’s college tuition, I don’t think there’s a lot of money to put toward children’s pocket money,” and “From now on, I’ll just waste money without any income.” “I don’t understand my husband’s mindset of wanting to live by eating,” she said.
She continued, “I wish my husband would think regarding making as much money as he used to make, at least until the children become established in society… but it gives me a headache because he keeps saying he wants to sell the house right away.” She added, “My husband is quite stubborn, but my demands are unreasonable.” “I’d like to get some advice,” he said.
Netizens who saw the post generally expressed the opinion that they should understand the husband’s decision. The opinion is that it would be better to use the money from selling a house for a couple’s retirement rather than using it to support their children.
Netizens said, ‘Support your children only until they get a professional license, and following that, tell them to take care of themselves. I think you will be 80 years old following your children get married. Do you think you will be able to enjoy your retirement by then?’, ‘There is no need to go all-in on your children. They left comments such as ‘Even if it means spending money in old age, it is much better to live without having to worry regarding your children’ and ‘It seems like you have done enough as a parent, how much more are you willing to do?’
Some say, ‘The husband who is proud of himself at a young age, and the writer who wants to provide all the remaining money to his children, seem immature. “If my husband doesn’t want to work as a simple laborer, there are many things he can do now, such as learning skills,” and “I don’t understand why he wants to just have a house and play with it all the time.” They expressed opinions such as, “It seems premature to sell the house now, and it would be right to think it through and use it later when you need a lump sum for health, etc.”
Shin Min-kyung, Hankyung.com reporter [email protected]
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