2023-07-19 16:24:02
Emotion plays a fundamental role in daily life, because it is a rudder that guides our possibilities of well-being.
A few decades ago we started talking regarding emotions. Humberto Maturana already said that “emotions are the foundation of all doing. They can never be separated. Understanding does not occur in rational argument, but in my accepting that rational argument as valid, and that depends on emotion.
Identifying our emotion, learning to name it, distinguishing what it predisposes us to is opening the door to the possibility of managing the well-being of our lives at different times.
The body, in which we find ourselves while we live, the one that we move voluntarily and involuntarily, is in which responses or physiological reactions occur to changes or stimuli called emotions.
Recognizing that emotions occur in our body, then… we must move the body to manage them.
In a simple way, we can bring well-being to my life if:
I recognize the emotions I am in; I practice movements or bodily activities that help me to change my emotions when I need it; I seek professional help (doctor, psychologist, psychiatrist) when there are limiting emotions without the possibility of managing them.
Shall we practice?
To start reading we suggest:
Smile! Keep smiling. What happened? What emotions appear? What happened to your body?
Perhaps your body had the need to sit up, open your chest and a feeling of well-being appeared.
A simple action with immediate results that invites you to continue learning.
We wrote in the book Designing Conversations:
Emotion: predisposition that the person has at a certain moment for action, as a result of an event.
Something happens (fact), which generates an emotion in me from the interpretation of the fact, which predisposes me to a certain action.
Let’s see actions to which some emotions predispose us:
With fear: the predisposition is to flee, to hide. With shame: the predisposition is to hide. With anger / rage / rage: the predisposition is to punish. With optimism: the predisposition is to make positive judgments of the future With pessimism: the predisposition is to make negative judgments of the future. With enthusiasm: the predisposition is to act. With resignation: the predisposition is not to act.
Anger. Each person is angered by different facts. In general, the quick interpretation we make is “this can’t happen”, and one is predisposed to sometimes even violent actions: shouting, insulting, hitting.
This emotion has the characteristic that, when we get angry, we do not listen.
Suggestion with body activity:
Get out of the space where what makes me angry is, or people I want to insult or attack.
Go to a place where you can vent your anger bodily: running, insulting, hitting something that doesn’t hurt me.
If you manage to do it, when you finish you will be able to recognize a tired body that can return to the place where it got angry and you will surely see the issue differently, you will even be able to say: “this makes me angry”, seeking to solve it, making the requests or claims that you need.
Fear. We are sorry when we believe we are incompetent, such as to take an exam; or when we interpret danger, which appears when we think that we do not have the necessary resources to face the situation that is presented to us.
In this emotion, it is important to recognize what generates it in order to take the necessary precautions if we want to change the emotion.
It also happens that it is an emotion that “takes care of us”, perhaps knowing that it accompanies us, gives us warning signs.
Anxiety. In principle, it prepares us for the future. The drawback is that if we are living with anxiety, it prevents us from living in the here and now. When we observe that this emotionality is maintained, techniques such as mindfulness are indicated.
Frustration. When the result achieved is not what we were looking for, and we did not achieve it. Give time to this emotion, feel it and then do some bodily activity that allows us to change and ask ourselves the question: What did I learn from this unachieved result?
Shame. Related to public image. What can we do? Transit it, breathe and continue doing. If it happens to us giving speeches, an alternative is to practice the speech in different ways, the body does not know that it is an exercise and by doing so it allows us to acquire new possibilities. When the time comes, the shame will be there, however, practice will get you through it quickly.
Sadness. It happens when we lost something important. We suggest not escaping this emotion, feeling it and accepting what the body needs to do, even crying. Giving place allows us to recognize the loss, to identify it.
Emotions occur because they start from a certain event, rarely can we program them.
It is convenient, then, when we feel an emotion:
Give it a name, identify it If it favors us, stay in it; If it does not favor us, carry out some appropriate bodily activity (dancing, physical or playful activity, etc.) that predisposes me to another emotionality.
Little by little, you will learn to regulate the emotions that you want to change.
Moods
It is regarding the recurring emotions that we find ourselves in for a while. We live in different states of mind, which ones do you recognize…
…in the morning?
…at night?
…on holiday?
…a Monday?
…a Saturday?
Even organizations have a certain state of mind that we can perceive when we are in them.
The characteristic of moods is that they are contagious. They tend to color our perception of the world: they are like lenses through which we observe.
The good news is that they can be designed.
In order to do so, we first need to identify what is the state of mind with which we live in the different places, and define what is the state of mind that we want to design in each space.
Some examples of moods that promote well-being:
Enthusiasm. Ideal when we start a project, since it stimulates us to work on it. Let’s remember when and what activities we found ourselves excited regarding. It predisposes us to act. How to generate enthusiasm in the people who accompany us? Promoting the action they are taking.
Serenity. In spaces for rest, meditation or creativity. When do we need it? What actions relax us to achieve it? Sometimes, drinking coffee, mate with others; talking in a calm tone.
Happiness. For celebrations and parties. It is a state of mind that can be spread from the moment the idea of the activity is born, in imagining what it will be like and finally when carrying it out.
Acceptance. Which generates a state of peace by recognizing what we cannot change.
Sometimes we don’t accept losses, stories that made us suffer. Going through non-acceptance has its time for each person.
Who do we ask for help? In order to achieve that acceptance that will give us the possibility to go through life in peace.
Trust. It is the fundamental beam of any organization with a shared vision. Due to its importance, we will develop a note on this topic.
* Directors of A&T Organizational Coaching
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