2023-07-10 06:00:22
Weight, height, youth: These are some of the most common complexes in women, created by a hegemonic body model.
Last update : July 10, 2023
“Get a size zero, get a double size zero, launder this, your skirt is too short, your shirt is too small.” These are just a few of the verses of Be a lady (Be a lady, they said), a poem by Camille Rainville, which she posted on her blog and later became a viral video, both the material addresses and denounces the multiple mandates that weigh on women. All these messages circulate in conversations with friends, in uncomfortable questions from loved ones regarding your appearance, in the media. By their insistence and their frequency, they end up configuring ideals to be achieved but also frustrations. Today we detail some of the most common complexes in women.
7 most common complexes in women
Here are some of the complexes that appear more frequently in women and which represent, in the long term, problems of insecurity and self-esteem:
The weight. Many women feel embarrassed because they have a few extra pounds or because they are very thin and without curves.
Size. Either because they are big or small. Short women have a big complex. There are jokes regarding this.
The hair. Women struggle with their hair in a thousand possible ways. They are unhappy with the color, stiffness, curls, thinness, gray hair, etc.
Stretch marks, cellulite and wrinkles. Anything that is a mark on the skin can be the cause of a complex or the choice of certain clothes that hide it. There are women who don’t wear shorts or go swimming because they feel embarrassed by their cellulite.
Age. Society is governed by age criteria, where youth is valued. An elderly person being associated with what is no longer useful. For this reason, women also make a great effort to smooth out the passage of time.
Boobs. Many women complain regarding the size of their breasts, considering them small. They often suffer because some people comment on them or joke regarding them.
Puffy eyes. Sometimes the coloring under the eyes turns purple or darker. Many women suffer from the way their dark circles stand out, hiding them behind layers of makeup.
A matter of gender
It is worth giving a little background to understand the origin of these physical complexes. In society, the hegemony of certain bodies is noted. Those considered desirable, even perfect, are slender, thin, without scars or marks, with fair skin color, straight hair or easy-to-wear waves, neither curlers nor curly.
In short, all these hegemonic body stereotypes dictate what others should be, ignoring body diversity. However, you have to be very careful. Car, often what is defined as beautiful is not necessarily healthy. This exposes women to go through situations that end up violating their own health.
Among these actions, the following stand out:
Obtain an ideal image
Extreme diets, surgeries, exaggerated exercises, ancient practices such as the use of certain girdles or corsets to slim down the waist, among others. So today, the quality of life of many women is affected in an attempt to achieve this ideal. For example, the consequences of malpractice in surgeries, rejection of implants in the body, among others.
Going through bouts of anxiety
In addition, the pressure of having a hegemonic body has a great influence on self-esteem and body acceptance. Women who are not satisfied with their body image can experience situations of anxiety, depression, relationship difficulties, eating disorders. For example, in Argentina, according to the Argentine Society of Pediatrics (SAP), one in three women suffers from an eating disorder (ED).
Accept prejudices
This isn’t regarding criticizing women who like to look and feel good and invest the time and money to do so.. The question is to clarify why they do it. Then how they act towards those who do not.
In this sense, it is not the same for a woman to take care of her bodily beauty, because she wants and chooses, than to do it because of what others will say or because of the fear of lose his partner. Bias can be present on many more occasions than you think.
Also read: What are the habits of empowered women?
Complexes in Women: Educating for Tolerance and Diversity
Although there are also men (for example, with alopecia), it is above all women who suffer from aesthetic violence. For this reason, it is necessary to educate from an early age to respect the different body types, both in the family, at school and, above all, in the media. These are largely responsible for the creation and widespread dissemination of certain messages and stereotypes regarding girls and women.
How to love and respect more his body and also that of others? Here are some final tips:
Avoid commenting on other people’s bodies. No comments: not even if it is positive.
Do not use bodily characteristics to refer to a person.
Accept that body and beauty are just aspects. Or dimensions of all that a person is and that doesn’t completely define them. What other aspects of yourself would you highlight, what are you most proud of? It is important to learn to seek and recognize one’s own worth in order to build strong self-esteem.
Learn to recognize the beauty in diversity. Look for inspiration in women who accept their bodies as they are.
Finally, don’t forget that it’s regarding learning to accept more real bodies, which do not require superhuman efforts to be in shape or aesthetic. All people have an active role to play in breaking stereotypes and are valuable in doing so.
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