2023-06-16 15:08:37
Oman- Failure is a word that has a bad effect on a person, and it is repeatedly exposed when failing to achieve goals on different levels, and with an atmosphere of weak motivation that subconsciously affects determination, will and perseverance, feelings of inevitability of failure are deeply rooted in the depths of the soul.
Failure is often accompanied by negativity in the ways of thinking that impede the flow of healthy emotions, so that motives decline, and physical and psychological pain appears due to anxiety and the feeling of making an effort without result. And it appears in every situation as if it were a nail being hammered into the mind, the effects of which do not disappear easily.
Clinical psychologist Fidaa Abu Al-Khair says, “There is no individual who is successful or unsuccessful in absolute terms. When a person believes that he is a failure, the reasons behind that must be sought, even if they actually exist, such as lack of skills or weak abilities, and this is the result of not learning or practicing them.” And he has no stock to face certain life issues, such as a job interview, and he feels like a failure.”
Failure cannot be generalised
Abu Al-Khair believes that failure already exists and cannot be generalized to the life of any human being, as it becomes an adjective close to him. Accordingly, it must be confronted with the phrase “You have had experiences of failure … but you are not a failure” from the psychotherapist or support persons.
She explains that failure is a natural thing that can happen to anyone, but one must know how to deal with it, and how its percentage can be reduced as much as possible through other experiences, or it can be completely overcome by benefiting from it in achieving future successes.
factors leading to failure
The factors leading to failure are many, including:
- Negative misconceptions.
- Low self-confidence.
- Lack of skills.
- Family upbringing methods.
- The idea of accepting failure is like accepting success.
The psychologist points out that the feeling of failure is one of the features that distinguish psychological problems and disorders, such as depression, social anxiety, and low self-esteem. The individual should not develop this “belief” or “obsession”, because failure is not the end, but a motivating beginning to success.
Failure in the business world
“It is necessary to delete the term failure in the world of business, achievement, and job, and to use in its place the term temporary defeat, which writer Napoleon Hill spoke regarding in his books specialized in personal development,” says trainer at the Business Administration and Personal and Professional Development Department, Muhammad Tamli.
He justifies this by saying that “failure is a negative term in general, it may make you have negative feelings that will directly affect your happiness because of the loss of positive feelings. Here, we must know that the equation of achievement and progress in life contains in one aspect a very important matter, which is Control of feelings and thoughts.”
He explains, “The more negative your feelings and thoughts regarding yourself and your abilities…the less your happiness, and therefore your enthusiasm for work, which leads to weak self-confidence, leading to alienation of people from you and not affecting them positively. And the situation may lead to you, in the end, to job burnout and psychological pressure.” And quit work.”
He added, “But when you adopt the term temporary defeat, you will find that there is a positive energy that began to push you to learn more to win in the end. We always either win or learn. There is no loss.”
Ways to overcome failure
Published by “Free Well Mind” (verywellmindA set of healthy ways to overcome failure, including:
- Practice healthy coping skills: Calling a friend, practicing deep breathing, or going for a walk are just a few examples of healthy ways to deal with your pain. However, not every adaptive skill works for everyone, the important thing is to find what works for you.
- Acknowledge irrational beliefs regarding failure: You may have developed some irrational beliefs regarding failure at some point in your life. You may think that failure means you are bad or that you will never succeed. These beliefs are inaccurate and can prevent you from doing things that you might not succeed at. So, make a point of listing the irrational beliefs that may influence your feelings and behavior.
- Face your fears of failureFacing your fears can be key to reducing the frustration of failure and overcoming it.
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