2023-06-12 17:03:58
Promised at the twilight of the sixties, the Great Evening of erotic liberation is still awaited. Worse still: his emancipatory mantras, when not disguised as rapacious marketing arguments, serve as a state-of-the-art tool of domination. Beware of the scam !
“Enjoy without hindrance”, they said. The flagship slogan of May-68 resounds with a strange echo, at the time of starting a third round of pints, in the hollow of a Bellevillois harbor. It’s because Myriam, fresh out of a “quagmire” romance, is pondering. For two months now, our table neighbor has been piling up conquests at an industrial pace. “Recently, there was Gabriel, Marc and then Steph’ – a nice skewer”. Fantastic ! But then, why this bitter tone? How to explain that the detail of these adventures ” without the fuss ” be as depressing as a rainy Sunday brunch? Conclusion ? “If that’s sexual freedom, no thank you.”
CARDBOARD REVOLUTION
Like the stinging impression of an XXL format scam. ” We are made to believe that the spirit of the times has changed,” continues Myriam, but if you are a girl comfortable with your sexuality, not only the label of “easy girl” is never far, but in addition it gives the guys a free pass. They believe they are entitled to expect unfailing enthusiasm for their fantasy. Meaning: if you don’t buy in, you’re stuck, not up to the status of “liberated”. Brief, “in the name of open-mindedness, a lot of abuse is overlooked”. And according to historian Malka Malkovich, the worm was already in the fruit, from the “sexual revolution” from the 60’s. Through his work The Other Legacy of 68, she recalls that the liberation of mores linked, in particular, to the legalization of the contraceptive pill in 1967, is far from having pushed the doors of a kingdom of idyllic permissiveness. As for the drifts following May-68, these served above all to distill, insidiously, the“injunction of enjoyment at all costs”.
Unprecedented pressure which, some 55 years later, is going crescendo according to Gwen Ecalle, sexologist and president of the association Les Sexosophes. ” The sex-positive movement has liberated speech on the recognition of pleasure, but also spawned new demands for a fantasized hypersexuality, on which a flourishing business has been grafted, from food products supposed to boost the libido, to commerce of influencers promoting, for example, capsules intended to “tighten” the vagina “. In sum, “the capitalism of eroticism has transformed enjoyment into a program for sale”. However, there is no guarantee of finding a buyer. Proof that the proliferation of sex-oriented discourse – commercial or not – does not go hand in hand with an explosion of practices: according to an Ifop survey revealed in February 2022, 44% of 18-25s have had no sexual intercourse over the past year, compared to a percentage that peaked at 25% in 2016. A tumble potentially synonymous with genuine fed up.
SEX ANYWHERE, PLEASURE ANYWHERE
« I threw in the towel “, admits Souleymane. ” As a guy, I’m expected to have an insatiable – and savvy – sexuality. On the grounds that all the information to diversify his moves is just a click away, I would have to spend my life having fun in the bed “. Back to wall facing “the triumphant ideology of erotic emancipation” posing, implicitly, only one sexuality “blooming” would not only be the cement of the couple, but the condition sine qua non happiness, our interlocutor now assumes to favor evenings Netflix with his partner rather than a party of legs in the air, like 36% of Americans between 18 and 38 years old, according to a study published by the Wall Street Journal in 2019. Faced with the outstretched hand of the decompartmentalization of sexualities, there is therefore the emerging rank of no sex, and then the others. Those who give credence to its sweet promises, and try to grab the wagon by embracing the trend of “free love”. But once more, it gets stuck. ” On paper, this rose-water expression reveals the advent of a romantic boiling, except that the reality is quite different. “, regrets Kenza for whom the proposal” opening whispered by his partner resulted in the one-way granting of a license to go elsewhere without rendering accounts. Bitter disappointment. ” It’s a bit like economic liberalismshe pictures, we dangle a benefit for all, whereas the deregulation of the traditional couple only benefits those who were already in a position of dominance “. Namely: guys.
« We swim right in a libertarian approach to the affective relationship, typical of the time commented Gwen Ecalle. ” By individualistic anchoring, some act as if the body and the desire were capitals which each one might dispose of as he pleased in the form of a “fluid affection » sometimes draped in the trappings of progressive deconstruction “. Rather handy sleight of hand, when it comes to ” dress up in the latest fashion toxic behaviors supposedly relegated to the closets”. Good. But then what, the sexual revolution would therefore be fatally misguided? ” The picture is not so black “, tempers Romy Alizée, artist and performer within alt porn productions. ” Even if they should not eclipse conservative outbursts, nor the persistence of sexist patterns, #MeToo, feminist waves and the visibility of LGBT+ communities are indeed steps forward. “Poses the one who hopes that the ethical renewal of the X industry will also move the lines by relying on” responsible inclusiveness “. A small revolution in line with a larger momentum. That’s why I wrote to you ” of the ongoing struggle for our sexual liberation “. The real one. So, ready to take up arms?
Par Antonin Gratien
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