I married Nam following only half a year of acquaintance despite the objections of my parents, because he is one armor older than me, nearly 40 years old and once had a wife. For me, it doesn’t matter because my goal is to marry a rich husband.
“I just need to get a rich husband, every month my husband will give away hundreds of millions to spend comfortably, but I don’t care if my married life is happy or not”That’s what I often say to my friends. But when I entered the marriage path, I realized that that thought was childish and learned 2 lessons for life.
1. Women should be sober when looking at men, don’t lose yourself and regret it later
Nam and his mother said that the reason for his divorce was that his ex-wife always refused to have children because she was busy pursuing her career. However, during my research, I discovered that Nam had a bit of a problem. A few times I caught him texting flirting with strange girls, often gathering with friends and going to karaoke “handrails”, …
There was even a time when he was angry because of something and almost hit me, accompanied by heavy insults. Then he sweetly bought flowers, gave me gifts, and apologized.
Although I knew he had a problem, when he apologized, I still easily let it go. (Illustration)
I easily ignore everything, because I think that when a man is single, he doesn’t have a flower and makes mistakes. I am also confident that in the future, when I get married, I will change him. Besides, I married Nam mainly because he was rich but emotional.
Not long following getting married, Nam gradually did not find anything new in me, so the two began to have friction, and then I discovered that he had another woman outside. I tried to dissuade and deter him, but he refused to listen, even blamed me for interfering too deeply in his life. In general, I mightn’t change my husband’s bad temper and habits, so I gradually closed my eyes and opened them up.
Until one day, he was discovered having an affair with a married woman, beaten with jealousy and filmed a clip that was posted all over the website. My relatives, friends, even colleagues quickly learned of this news, which made me extremely embarrassed and had to resign because I might not stand the talk of people at the company.
At this point, I was humiliating to realize that the carelessness in choosing a marriage partner would have unintended consequences. What’s more foolish of me is that I have realized the danger but still head into it just because of the flashy things around my husband and in-laws.
My goal was to marry a rich man, but then I realized I was wrong. (Illustration)
2. Never make the wrong choice because of the flashy things outside
Many people say, getting married needs to consider the husband’s family and so do I. The first bullet point, which is also the most prerequisite, is that his family is very rich and has solid economic conditions. Secondly, his parents loved me very much, even defended me in front of Nam and bought me luxury gifts.
But when Nam’s affair broke out, her husband’s parents also became different people, they turned to blame me for not knowing how to manage my husband. When Nam and I divorced following half a year of living together, they only gave me 50 million, called youth compensation.
At the end of a failed marriage, I also realized that marriage should be built on the foundation of love, understanding and trust in the other party. If you feel that your partner has a problem, you have to be sober to think carefully before deciding to get married.
If you are not sure regarding the person you have chosen to be your husband, you should stop, don’t close your eyes and legs for money or any other reason, lest you push your life into a situation where there is no other way because of the wrong choice.
