When her husband has an affair, each woman will have a different way of dealing with it. Some people choose to be silent and patiently endure, some people decide to divorce, but there are also people who find ways to save their marriage.
The marriage of Ms. M (40 years old, living in Ho Chi Minh City) also experienced turbulence when there was the appearance of “tieu tam”, but with ingenuity and daring, she still kept her home. .
Sharing in the program The 3rd person, Ms. M said that she and her husband knew each other through the recommendation of friends. After 4 years of understanding, the two decided to get married. When they returned to the same house, the couple was lent money by a relative to open a fruit stall and their married life was still rosy until she gave birth to a second child.
Ms. M shared regarding her husband’s adultery in the program The 3rd Person.
At that time, Ms. M mainly stayed at home to take care of her family, the business was managed by her husband. When the second daughter was a few days old, her mother and daughter’s health had problems, but her husband was not worried or concerned, making her feel that something bad would happen to her family.
Besides, her husband often came home late, always kept his phone close to her to text someone, so she began to suspect her husband was having an affair.
However, when he questioned his husband, he said that he was working at the airport, so he came back late. Knowing that her husband’s ability and qualifications might not do that job, Ms. M didn’t believe it at all, but because she had lost faith and had no real evidence, she did not want to argue further because of her dignity.
“I have seen the irregularity of my husband in the schedule of activities, but because of pride, pride, and pride, I dare not speak out. I always think of my family as happy, but the inside is full of garbage,” shared Ms.
According to Mrs. M’s speculation, the third person to break into her marriage is a business woman in the opposite store, 9 years older than her husband and 11 years older than her. She feels it through her attitude, eyes, and gestures when two people come into contact with each other.
During a child playing with her phone, Ms. M guessed the password, so she secretly logged into her husband’s phone. Of course, all of her assumptions were correct. However, the series of bed messages between her husband and “tieu tam” really made her dumbfounded.
She mightn’t believe that the first person who had cuddled with her for so many years might utter such obscene words.
She mightn’t believe that the first person who had cuddled with her for so many years might utter such obscene words. (Illustration)
Waking up her husband to say three things, she is heartbroken when her husband fully accepts responsibility for her and tries to protect her lover. Angered, Ms. M called the other woman directly to talk regarding right and wrong and was surprised when she received the answer: “You should advise your husband to return. I know your husband has feelings for me.”
Despite saying that, this woman still goes back and forth with Ms. M’s husband behind her back, and the two even intend to have a child together.
Her husband had an affair, Ms. M did not know how many tears she had cried. Afraid of thinking too hard, she decided to shave her head to calm her mind, then went to braces, trying to find physical pain to forget the pain in her heart.
In the following days, the husband and wife often had conflicts, even when the husband broke the furniture in the house and the wife threatened with a knife.
Wanting to keep her family happy and not fall into a passive position, Ms. M found out the information and whereregardings of “tieu tam”. Knowing that she is still living with her husband and two children, the eldest is 20 years old, she brought a few friends to the house of “tieu tam” to talk to the husband of the third person.
She expected him to advise her wife, to definitely cut ties with her husband, but he was a coward.
After that meeting, Ms. M and her husband had a conflict once more, he blamed her for going to the mistress’s house to make a mess. The two sides proposed a divorce, but her husband did not agree, he still wanted to continue this marriage.
“When suffering, I can shoulder the burden with my husband, no matter how hard I suffer, I can bear it, but when I make a little money, the man changes. When he changed, I didn’t want to hold back. As for the fact that he doesn’t want a divorce, in general he just wants more, not less,” said Ms.
Ms. M met the husband of “tieu tam” to talk, hoping he would advise his wife to turn back, but he was a coward. (Illustration)
However, following that, Ms. M’s husband and mistress still went back and forth with each other. For the sake of her children, Ms. M tries to show her husband the true face of her mistress. Some time later, Ms. M’s husband and “tieu tam” had a conflict, even the brother of the third man even asked her husband to be responsible for his sister. Only then did he make up his mind to sever the wrong relationship and return to his family.
“Beat those who run away, not those who run back. Married life will definitely have ups and downs, winning or losing is there, see if you can overcome it or not”, said Ms. M regarding the reason why she still gave her husband the opportunity to return.
After this incident, Ms. M realized that she had to change and repair herself, not only in appearance but also in behavior and speech, not only her husband. Because a happy marriage needs the efforts of many sides, everyone builds together, the new marriage will be sustainable.